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    Hello - from the 1st wife aka Original

    update Hi all, I had lost my book mark and finally found an email to refind the page. I set my foot down in regards to the girlfriend, and while that has been a rough road my husband and I are working on us. We still desire a poly relationship but I know it could never be with that woman...
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    Very New to This

    I forgot in regards to equal time and community meals activities etc, don't push it if your wife is not ready. Having Rita in your home may be too much for her. Having rita in her kitchen using her utensils, especially right off the back, is a tremendous amount to ask. First see how the...
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    Very New to This

    As a primary whois going through this, I felt like you were writing my story except that the other is not willing to stop and be just friends, she wants him to herself and is actively pursuing him...anyways back to topic. Be there for you wife. Let her know/feel how much you love her. Understand...
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    Hello - from the 1st wife aka Original

    Thank you Kevin. He is home now and we have been talking a lot. I explained that while polyamory is still what I feel is right for us, right now is not the time. I voiced my concerns that we need to work on us and the other relationship needs to at least be put on hiatus, and I can not agree to...
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    Hello - from the 1st wife aka Original

    I totally agree. I admit I entered this blindly with what I thought poly was, he entered based on what she had suggested to him. Things have gotten out of control in our relationship. I am waiting for him to get home so we can get back on track as trying to talk on the phone with him at her...
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    Hello - from the 1st wife aka Original

    lol I love the term. When he gets home tonight after I talk I am going to show him all the information I found and the way it really is. I think once he sees how it is supposed to be and its him and I talking not the 3 of us then he may get some of what I have been saying and asking the past few...
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    Is it for us?

    as someone who has recently decided on this, and experiencing a bad situation at this time, I can only say research ahead of time. Set guide lines before you start any extra relationships. One guideline has to be if at any time you are uncomfortable with something they are doing they need to be...
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    Hello - from the 1st wife aka Original

    I had a feeling he was cheating a few weeks ago, but then thought it was my insecurity and stress (I was just finishing a hard semester in my career program) After we discussed it and decided it was something we wanted to explore I asked so whats your girlfriends name, and it was the one I...
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    Hello - from the 1st wife aka Original

    I take no offense, I agree we need to heal things. I was actually the first to bring up the idea years ago, but he was never very receptive. I am open to an honest poly, although this current situation definitely turned into one I quickly became uncomfortable with. I did not know there were...
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    Hello - from the 1st wife aka Original

    Hello and thank you We have been married for 18 years and have 3 children. I was 19 when we married. We have done counseling a few times over the years but never made it past 3 sessions as he always says they just tell him its all his fault and I do nothing wrong. Although that has never...
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    Hello - from the 1st wife aka Original

    I am Jenn, and my husband and I recently made the decision to live a poly life. He has had many affairs in t past yet was never receptive of having an open relationship until recently. He has a girlfriend, who I recently met. I am having some jealousy issues surrounding my fear of abandonment...
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