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    Compersion Suddenly Hits a Wall

    Its not easy managing a triad, no matter what the dynamic. I am in a similar situation as you and still finding my way through it. My wife and I are deeply committed to each other. Our GF has a loving romance and NRE with my wife. Our GF and I are in love also, but have just started exploring...
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    Longevity of relationships

    We have made it to ten months so far. Randi, Jenny, and I love each other very much and are committed to making it last. We definitely have our challenges, a lot of struggle with balance and some possessiveness, but we communicate very well and so far so good. Congrats to you and to all of...
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    Attachment and longing

    Hi! Your situation is both different and similar to mine. What I can advise is to give things time and keep the lines of communication open. Maybe find out where your GF is at...how is she feeling...does she ever envision or want more time with you? I believe in always being open and honest...
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    Triads, tribulations, and creating a family....

    Hi Abjection. One of the complications of this is that my wife and I share our GF...though not exactly on the same level. Honestly....I think that is my biggest problem. I wish the GF felt more comfortable with me and could feel the love that I feel for her. She is not capable of being that...
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    Triads, tribulations, and creating a family....

    Hi MR. Yes I have. We are very limited on our nights because five nights a week she has her kids and we do the family thing. I will most likely ask for one of those sundays on occassion for just us. But right now....I am kind of feeling things out and seeing if things occur naturally...
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    Triads, tribulations, and creating a family....

    Thank You GG. I am definitely trying to be calm and sane, and speak up when I need to. Sometimes its hard because I feel selfish. I am trying to balance and honor the three of us. I definitely do the solo thing....its just that I really want to feel that connection. Right now the two women...
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    Triads, tribulations, and creating a family....

    Hi everyone! You guys have all been very helpful to me and I am continuing to learn a lot about poly life and myself. So here is the latest update on my triad. We have all done a tremendous amount of growing and communicating over the last several weeks. My wife is still in NRE with our GF...
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    NRE: Me -> Fiancee. NRE: Fiancee -> GF

    Hi Petunia. Your situation sounds very tricky and very stressful. Compounded by the stress of an impending marriage. I share some of your issues, in that my wife is in the throws of NRE with our GF, and I have struggled with envy and jealousy. I am proud to say that I have come leaps and...
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    MFF Triad Went Horribly Wrong-Help Needed

    I agree with GG and nycindie. I too am in a triad, and right now the focus is on the three of us and my wife and our third. The relationship with our third and I is close but not as intimate as I would like. I have had to adjust to the wife and third being in the throes of NRE. I learned...
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    Advice for a Noob

    All of you have given such great advice. I am in a triad and my wife is going to spend a night with our GF for the first time in a few weeks. I too have been struggling with all those crazy insecurities and fears. I truly want it to happen and know it will be good for all of us....but damn...
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    Choices

    I have to agree with Galagirl. You sound like two wonderful people who share different desires and needs in your life. Perhaps it is not possible to share a long term sustainable relationship with your girlfriend. What you outline would seem to work better with either a willing mono or...
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    "Tell me something unique about yourself"

    Thanks Glitter! I will check it out. :)
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    Discovering Poly, first night alone fears

    Understood Hi JimBoy. Yeah I too have struggled with those intense feelings. I am part of a triad, but my wife and GF are very much in the throes of NRE. we enjoy the threesome experience, but they also want time alone. The GF wants time with me and maybe some sexual stuff...but is not quite...
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    Need a little guidance

    First I want to thank all of you who have welcomed me so warmly. How nice to finally find my community! My Intro pretty much sums things up...but a brief recap is: I am married to an amazing woman, I am a woman, and we have a GF. We are a triad, but the GF just wants a FWB relationship with...
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    Hello from Central/Upstate New York

    Thank You JaneQ...it is quite the ride so far! Lovefromgirl...I am located in Binghamton. Its a good location. So I have the ability to go pretty much anywhere in CNY. Still trying to figure out who/where the poly community is. Adam...thanks! I am a member of the Birdcage, but it seems like...
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    "Tell me something unique about yourself"

    What is OKCupid? Silly question....what is OKCupid? I am guessing its some sort of poly site...but would love to know more. Thanks, Shari
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    Tats & Piercings?

    A big tat of Yoda on my right upper arm, a rainbow bracelet with feathers on my right ankle, a woman's strength amulet on my left pectoral, and a rose with a heart through it (my very first tat) that I got when I was 20 and had washboard abs. I jokingly refer to it as my rose bush since I am a...
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    "Tell me something unique about yourself"

    Hmmm...well...currently I am an over the road Trucker who is also pursuing her PhD in Public Health. The job is fascinating and fun...but I am getting ready to start my dissertation soon and want to be home and working. Looking for something local now.
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    Hello from Central/Upstate New York

    Hi everyone. I am a lesbian woman with bisexual tendencies (lol) married to another woman, and involved in a triad with a third woman. Contrary to all those unicorn seekers out there...we are not an equally balanced triad. I do have a very intimate and sexual relationship with my wife and our...
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