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    Final update on our (failed) "triad" experiment

    She and I mutually ended things three days after he broke up with her. She thought about how, if in a year, she and I were still good (which I doubt we would've been, but that's another story), she'd still go to bed alone nearly every night. I realized that - especially given the problems in my...
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    Change from a triad to a vee?

    Has anyone been in a relationship that started off as a true triad, but changed to a vee? My husband and I have been in a relationship with another woman for a year... but a lot has happened, and he is no longer in love with her. He loves her, but not in a romantic sense. He is probably going...
  3. K

    The End Has Come

    It began as a fantasy, in a dream world where boundaries are pushed and limits of expression are tested. It became a wild, passionate, heady frenzy. The crescendo grew, and new love was realized amongst the joy and certainty of love that had defied all odds and lasted many years. The cold chill...
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    Struggling

    The past couple of months in our triad have been rough. Our GF got a crappy new work schedule that results in her being gone from about 1:30 pm to 12:30 am. My husband works until 3:00, and until last week, I also worked until three three days a week. I lost my job, but that's a whole other...
  5. K

    I screwed up big time

    All of my insecurites came to a head last week and I read personal conversations between my husband and our girlfriend. I violated their trust and betrayed them both. She figured it out and confronted me, b ut had already decided she wasn't mad - as long as I admitted what I'd done. I did...
  6. K

    What you may discover in a poly relationship

    When we began to explore our sexual fantasies in a virtual world, one of them was a threesome - which I'd sort of been part of several times (I mostly watched, with limited participation), but he never really had any interest in. We did it once, and remarkably, I wasn't jealous. Then we did it...
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    Withholding sex?

    Okay... I've posted before about how frustrating it is to be the person in our triad with the highest sex drive. I was feeling really insecure about sex for a while. Our GF has done a lot to assuage those feelings, but my husband has done nothing - nor did I expect him to. It's just not his MO...
  8. K

    Feeling bratty

    My husband and our GF have alone time tonight. I screwed up estimating the time on dinner and that resulted in them having it until 10 pm, which is about an hour later than it normally would be. She goes to bed at 10:30, so that means I get basically no time with her tonight. They've done...
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    The Good Stuff

    I found this forum because I wanted a place I could to talk to people who understand the dynamics of a poly relationship. I needed somewhere to vent freely, but because that was my intention, all of my posts about our triad have been negative. Redpepper even said something along the lines of she...
  10. K

    Dealing with feeling unwanted

    My husband and I have been with our gf for six months. Before she moved in, he had been experiencing a major increase in his libido. Before we even met her, actually... Prior to that, we'd been avg once every 10 days or so, if that. Partly, he's always had a lower sex drive. Partly, we spent...
  11. K

    Hi :)

    Hi! I'm Karelia (Kari for short). I have been married for five and a half years and with my husband over 10. We never in a million years would've considered ourselves poly. Then in February, we met someone online and it wasn't planned... nor was it ever intended to be more than a fun online...
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