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    Greetings from TN

    You need a poly friendly counselor stat, brother. Because right now you threatened her inadvertantly by wanting to stop the poly (aka end her other relationship). I know your intentions are good, but her opinion of what you suggest will be colored. Don't let it offend you. If you really want to...
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    What would you do in this situation?

    I agree with leaving...for one reason: inconsiderate bullshit. Even if you were in, say a V, your relationship, your actions WILL affect the other person you're not directly connected to. Infedelity due to a very fast New thing I would consider forgiving. For revenge? Fuck no. These people have...
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    Polyamory and Shamanism

    Oh, I'm aware of how incredibly messed up he was. I do believe, like anyone else, he had useful things to say. Actually, his bullshit character is a reminder that having great insights does not a shaman make. Rolemodel wise, Miguel Ruiz is a much more squared away person. But I don't believe he...
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    Polyamory and/vs. Marriage

    I was not so mature. My family did their best to raise me well. But once I realized I did not agree, it was time to reprogram my social conditioning. I was married young, and we are both fortuneaye enough to have been at our core, forgiving and willing to bend and change and grow incessently for...
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    Greetings from TN

    Personally, I like to be friends with everyone. Not that hard. You don't have to try to be bestest buds, and that's kind of odd if you don't know someone well. My advice, clarity, respect, and icommunication. I don't truck with not knowing people, there's no excuse unless someone's just not...
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    Comfort with particular people...

    Thoughtful words. I'm working tooth and nail to adjust my personality sufficiently for poly, and its working. But I want it! So its is a pleasant labor, difficult, but welcome. No one thinks or understands the same. You are not obligated to be any more accepting of things than your partner...
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    Polyamory and/vs. Marriage

    In my experience, marriage holds no significance other than the lesson it taught me. We tried to hammer our relationship into societies marriage when we were mono, and had to face the mold of marriage as useless to us. Now it means something else. A commitment. I don't uncommit to anything, I...
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    New shock

    Try not to take offense, it wastes your energy to spend it being offended. It also means that you allowed it to control you. It happens, but its quite soothing just to smile and go on.
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    Polyamory and Shamanism

    I prefer the jumbled mess of Castaneda, Miguel Ruiz, and a whole slew of others who have worked tirelessly retooling 'shamanism' into a spirituality that really has nothing to do with tradition, and everything to do with positive change. Awareness, adaptation, breaking patterns, and hunting your...
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    A Long Introduction...A Happy One!

    Hello, I love you, won't you tell me your name? -Jim Morrison It is most wonderful to be here, in this time and place, sharing this life with you. Here's a little about my life so we can get to know each other better my friend, oh, and you may call me 'Rob'. :D I grew up in a broken home...
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    A Long Introduction...A Happy One!

    Hello, I love you, won't you tell me your name? -Jim Morrison It is most wonderful to be here, in this time and place, sharing this life with you. Here's a little about my life so we can get to know each other better my friend, oh, and you may call me 'Rob'. :D I grew up in a broken home...
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