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Mohegan, I can relate a lot to what you've written. I agree with what Derby wrote, wholeheartedly. Your parents love you. That's what they're there for. You are definitely not a failure! What your parents do and what happens to them is not your fault. Just do your best, put your heart into it...

You mean, you Mono and Nerdist area giving a workshop this weekend? Haha I didn't know this was happening. I would love to hear more about this fundamental difference between monos and polys. I'm not sure I cleanly or clearly fit into either. I'd been monogamous my whole life, up until three...

I'm not sure I realized there was something better, necessarily. I was (and to some degree still am) trying to find what I really want. I knew what I didn't want! It's only been three years, and I find I'm still getting used to the idea that being poly can also include all the values I hold...

Oh my god, Mono, you crack me up!! I actually laughed out loud. (Laughing out loud in a cabin all by yourself is very close to being crazy, so I choose my jokes carefully). ;) This is so true! I don't get how mono/poly folk are all that different.

I'm sorry to hear that dragonflysky. I'm sad to hear that he hasn't phoned in 4 days. If it is not nurturing to you, then I would say it's a healthy move for you to distance yourself. I admire how you've explored this, especially given you had never even heard of poly before meeting this man. I...

Nice to meet you Karma. :D

Hi Mohegan, I'm glad you wrote something here. :) And nice to meet your hubby, Karma. Takes a while to piece everyone all together. :)

dragonflysky, I relate to a lot of what you write. The dynamic is completely different coming into an already established relationship. While there are aspects with you and him (and you and her) that are so new, part of the relationship (him and her) is established. I think you're doing well...

This touches a spot in me because I have chronic health issues, so supporting me in some capacity is part of the package deal when getting involved with me. I have amazing friends who help me in various ways, so I always have support around me. I've learned not to place a lot of demand on any...

Haha!!

I am slowly, slowly settling into some kind of routine with Nerdist that works for us, so far. Tuesday nights are roly nights (on the phone), so I'm very happy about that. So much to sort out with everyone, yet. But so far, despite how difficult some aspects of it are, the times we do get to...

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Oh, yes, of course. Sorry, Mono. It's going to be a wonderful weekend!! I'll take my concern elsewhere. ;)

The man who introduced me to poly was a bit like this, in my experience, anyway. I fell in love with all the philosophies of poly he introduced me to. Clear, respectful communication. He described scenarios of wanting to kiss another woman, but phoning first to check in. I was allowed to ask to...

Redpepper, I know there's been some stress for all of you and would like to offer support. I thought you enjoyed having an OH and didn't want to give up having a special place where you are treated as a queen? But, maybe what you mean is that you would like to have that OH be right next door...

You all amaze me.

Thankful I just want to say how happy I am that Nerdist is going to be able to come visit me and that I'm feeling more recovered from surgery to have a guest. I'm so, so touched that Mono is going to be lending RP and their son his truck so that Nerdist can take their car. Thank you so much. I...

Good for you, Seeker of Truth. Sounds like you found some "truth" in all this.

I don't see any ruffled feathers. :) And your perspective is very appreciated. Yep, I'd misunderstood. I feel better knowing more about how things unfolded. This is all good. :) I'm feeling a bit preoccupied right now, so I'm not answering much. But I didn't want to let this go cold.

I've learned that no one can make us come to these realizations and decisions - we need to come to them on our own. And finding resolve within yourself is a huge step. It takes self-love and courage, so congratulations. Sometimes helping isn't about doing. As someone who has ended more than...