Age gap questions
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SEASONEDpolyAgain
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I'm more baffled at how a woman of that age can tolerate large amounts of time around a man of that age.
It's easy if you have enough in common! I have a 30 year age gap with Aries and a 22 year age gap with Pixi. I think when you're poly and kinky, age doesn't matter as much. I've got a lot of interests in things people half my age have, and often less with people of my own age. I'm not stuck in a rut. I've always been progressive bordering on radical and into "alternative" things, music, arts, tech, etc. The younger people enjoy my wisdom, experience, etc., and I benefit from their energy. I am sapiosexual and my partners are very smart and stimulating.
I know it’s silly, but she loves it and she’s been seen out with him having meals, etc., but she’s never been happier. SEASONEDpolyAgain
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To be fair, I don't find women of that age a whole lot more tolerable.
So what you're really saying is that you can't stand young people in general.
SEASONEDpolyAgain
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Yes, I've come to that realization over time. Covid I think. I spent too much time online reading their 'pinions
SlowPoly
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Honestly I love my kids (who seem exceptionally fun to me), but I have never much liked other young 20-somethings, even when I was one.
One of my dearest friends is more than 30 years older than I am. We aren’t sexual, but we have a very comfortable chemistry and love each other a ton. i don’t have any close unrelated friends that much younger.
I wonder how old you are, Slowpoly. Are you 40 with a 70+ year old good friend? Why do you think your older friend likes hanging out with YOU, you young whippersnapper?
All that money they had sure did help fund their new leases on life. I an waiting for a version of that movie with homeless people instead of bored/depressed rich ones.
Money sucks. No money sucks even more. /hijack
That age gap isn't an issue if they are loving spending time with each other, but it almost certainly has opened some tough doors for you. How are you doing with this? A 26 year old who is great in bed is the kind of the thing that a lot of male partners struggle to "compete" with. Is compersion there to balance things out? Are you and your wife communicating through things? I hope so!
But no, to directly answer your question, an age gap doesn't matter if all the healthy pieces are there between them.
But no, to directly answer your question, an age gap doesn't matter if all the healthy pieces are there between them.
Pippa
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You're correct. I can’t compete with a 26 year old male dancer. She tells me this is the best sex she’s ever had. I love it, but I do get jealous and I can cope with it. Last Thursday they went to a salsa event in Bournemouth and then they stayed and partied at the Holiday Inn. I wasn’t invited, as I’ve nothing to do with the salsa dance group. I accept that, but they have a Facebook page and to see pictures of my lovely wife dressed to impress, dancing and kissing a handsome young man all over social media is hard to take. But what can I do about it? I need to kerb my jealousy.
Do you mean "can't cope"?
And to add fuel to the fire, she couldn’t walk properly on the Sunday due to too much dancing and too much sex
She added fuel to YOUR fire, of what? Jealousy? Yet you add a hearts emoji. It sounds like you're experiencing conflicting emotions: you're jealous, and envious, yet proud of her, and also kind of aroused by it all.
You could NOT look at that FB page. You could also definitely request that she not tell you all about what great, best ever, sex she's having. Unless, that is, you're turned on by feeling humiliated and lesser than.
SlowPoly
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I’m 50, and they’re 80+. We have some shared interests — we met in a community music group. They had recently lost a spouse after a long illness when we met. They have been actively dating, wanting to be paired up or married (and with a pretty strict 10-year age gap limit in their checklist). But together we decided it would be nice to keep in touch and cultivate our friendship.
They have local and involved kids and grandkids, so they aren’t lonely in that sense. Even so, one of my kids was the best option for help with a big project they were working on, so the two of them are well acquainted now. My kid really enjoys interacting with this friend, too. Maybe they just like having some younger people — or anyone— showing interest in their life and ideas. Maybe my kid and I had room in our social selves for a quasi-parent/grandparent/mentor/elder figure.
I dunno. I just enjoy.