I like how so many non-monogamist sorts self-report it's not about "jealousy" as much as "scheduling," and so too, finding anybody else locally! So true. Ha! LDRs suck unless you've got "Lesbian U-Haul Effect," and that's too much-a-much, as an old friend on this list used to call it. And even in monogamy, it's hard to plan things around schedules. (My wife is a nocturnal-shift RN.) We can hardly plan around other's worlds.