Yeah, I had this same thought at first. Here's the thing, I think that this could be overcome by opening up this discord to other poly forums. I think when people find how warm and welcoming the polyamory.com forum is that they'll be more inclined to join the site and dialogues here. There's so many different communities which would be interested in a poly discord that could drive interest and attract people to this site through this discord if managed properly.I’m on a number of other discords and enjoy the platform, but I am not sure there’s enough membership or activity here to support a discord as well.
Glad we’re having this convo. To make the idea work, as I was explaining to Kevin in our dms, is to use the discord as a way to start coming up with discord community regulations. Ultimately, it’s up to everyone what might be of interest, and we’re going to need to vote on topics like a code of conduct, what rooms are going to be created, how private rooms should be handled, and wether or not we should be making the sever public or private as some examples.Ahhhh, so that's the thing. There are lots of large poly communities but the small size of this one is actually one of the best parts about it. We can totally be warm and welcoming to a few people at a time and not disrupt the tiny community feel. An influx of people? nope, do not want.
It's my belief that exposing it to more people WOULD change it from what it is, so no, I don't think we agree on this one.To your point, I agree. I wouldn’t want to see this site become any different than it already is. What I’d like to see happen is to expose the warmth and community into a larger and more dynamically accessible pool of people who could be recommended to join based on their interest in the warmth of the group if they felt they wanted that.
I see your point, thanks for clarifying. I actually still might agree after reading your explanation. You're much more of an authority on this than I am and I'd want to pay attention to that in how we might be interested in forming a discord.It's my belief that exposing it to more people WOULD change it from what it is, so no, I don't think we agree on this one.
Would you mind sharing some of the Discords you find most beneficial. I joined one recently, but as a new person to the polyamory world, It's been hard to find some community support / resources. Would love to hear some recommendations.I’m on a number of other discords and enjoy the platform, but I am not sure there’s enough membership or activity here to support a discord as well.
I do like some of the real time discussion in Discord but can also find it overwhelming and noisy when several people are responding to a particular question or topic. That's what brought me here to this forum because I agree to your point about being able to think about something and have a thought out response. The conversation is slower paced but contains more depth in my opinion. That being said, I would totally join the Discord. It's also fun to talk about non-poly related things and just get to know people.My vote shouldn't be considered a 100% no, it is more mostly a no, with a little bit of yes. I might participate a little, it might even grow on me; that's just unlikely.
I find that it's emotionally safer for me to have time to mull over my exact response to things, if things turn south. In a discord chat room, I would not have that safety net.
Honestly the ones I’m on aren’t polyamory related, more (local) kink community or medieval reenactment or other media I enjoy. So not helpful, I’m afraid.Would you mind sharing some of the Discords you find most beneficial. I joined one recently, but as a new person to the polyamory world, It's been hard to find some community support / resources. Would love to hear some recommendations.