Polyamory

We opened up in December and my wife met someone immediately. I finally met him last month and after all this build up, was shocked that this was my wife’s big relationship. He’s nice. And that’s it. Not smart, funny or interesting. He’s really overweight, has PTSD and lives in a trailer. I was appalled. I couldn’t help but be honest with her. She was upset but I said I’d get over it. I was fine for awhile. Sort of. And met the guy a couple more times. Again, he’s nice. With no other qualities. It’s turned me off her and now it’s a problem. I just don’t get it. And can’t get over it. I just see her differently. We’ve always seen people the same way and for 20 years have thrived on understanding them and figuring them out. And it’s shocking that she would fall in love and be intimate with someone we see so differently. I don’t know what to do. I try keeping it to myself but it’s obvious how distant I feel from her and she’s upset.