Hey all, looking for info

KimC

New member
Hey,

I'm 32 a lesbian and in a long term relationship.

Me and my wife have been together 12 years and married for 7.

We have spoke about polyamory as a concept for many years. My wife will often find herself romanticly interested in others and I never want her to feel like her feels are wrong or not valid. I'd also be a little egotistical if I thought I was the only person she could fancy or who can provide what she needs.

We are very open and honest and she tells me when she has feelings for other but until now we haven't been in a situation where those feeling are returned.

I want to be supportive and let her be free to love who and how she wants but I'm also struggling a little with my own insecurities.

So I guess looking for some place I can find people I can talk to and get advice from.

Thanks in advance. I hope that's not too much for an intro.
 

HaloOnFire

Active member
Hi there! Welcome to the board!

I would suggest the Multiamory folks and their podcasts: https://www.multiamory.com/start-here

Also The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola. I have found both to be invaluable guides in navigating this way of relationships.

HTH! :)
 

KimC

New member
Hi there! Welcome to the board!

I would suggest the Multiamory folks and their podcasts: https://www.multiamory.com/start-here

Also The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola. I have found both to be invaluable guides in navigating this way of relationships.

HTH
Hi there! Welcome to the board!

I would suggest the Multiamory folks and their podcasts: https://www.multiamory.com/start-here

Also The Jealousy Workbook by Kathy Labriola. I have found both to be invaluable guides in navigating this way of relationships.

HTH! :)
Hey,

Thank you so much. I'll take a look at both of those.

X
 

kdt26417

Official Greeter
Staff member
Greetings KimC,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

In my personal opinion, the right way to start out in Polyamory.com is to post an introduction, and that's what you did here so kudos. You are looking for advice, and for that I would recommend that you start a second thread in Poly Relationships Corner. It is our most active board, and you will get the most feedback (and advice) there from the widest range of people. Of course you can also get advice in this intro thread, there's nothing wrong with that. You said you are struggling a little with your own insecurities, and maybe you are wondering what you could/should do about that. Here's some resources that may help.
You don't have to delve into all of that list, just explore the items that call to you. And as questions arise for you, please post them (here or in Relationships Corner), and we will try our best to answer. Good luck in your poly adventures!

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

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If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!
 

UNICORN324

New member
I want to be supportive and let her be free to love who and how she wants but I'm also struggling a little with my own insecurities.

So I guess looking for some place I can find people I can talk to and get advice from.
Hi Kim and welcome,

Firstly let me say that this is common i may not have been here that long but after beginning a poly relation with 2 non poly people and still trying to be open for one and not the other it is always about adjusting. the way i have gone about it is always keeping the other informed.

and for insecurities we all have that and when you are open or poly its more prominent but it what you need to talk to your partner about cause with other they have sex with its just sex but they love me for me and that where i get batter at forgetting my insecurities.

Im always here is u want chat just send me a message xx
Adam
 
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