Hi all!

allmyair

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Hiya

I'm new to polyamory and looking for friends who can relate/ just have a nice convo with! I'm 26yo and transmasc (he/she/they) and plural.

I've been writing poetry for 17 years and hope to publish an anthology someday. I love being outdoors, good coffee, and analytical conversations :)

Well, see ya!
 
Greetings allmyair,
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Welcome!

transmasc (he/she/they) and plural.
I need some education here. Does this mean you use all pronouns? What does plural mean in your life? Or how do I relate plural to you? I've never seen that before.
 
Thank you. I feel more confused reading that. I just hope OP will give grace if I say something out of ignorance.
 
Welcome!


I need some education here. Does this mean you use all pronouns? What does plural mean in your life? Or how do I relate plural to you? I've never seen that before.
I only use he/she/they pronouns. There are many more and it can get hella confusing tbh
 
I only use he/she/they pronouns. There are many more and it can get hella confusing tbh
The article Magdlyn found was helpful! And I'm happy to explain my experience with Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly multiple personality disorder) and answer any questions!

Pretty much, from the ages of birth to 9 years old, humans' personality states integrate into one personality. These states include simple things like how to act in order to recieve food, getting affection from caregivers, self soothing, etc. Sometimes, when a child has been through enough repeated trauma, these personality states don't fully integrate. Therefore, in my case, I'm essentially a bunch of people in a meatsuit. Each personality/alter/headmate with their own sets of memories, likes, mannerisms, names, genders, etc. The dissociation that causes these different alters means that what I have experienced as our Princess is not what Z has experienced. If our Princess was experiencing it, she was present in the body to some degree, and able to use it. This is called "fronting." I am my alters.
And literally all of these parts of myself are madly in love, as family as partners as parents and children. I'm literally an entire community in here, with some variation of amnesia between us. I have always been polyamorous with my headmates, in a very real sense of the word :)
 
The article Magdlyn found was helpful! And I'm happy to explain my experience with Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly multiple personality disorder) and answer any questions!

Pretty much, from the ages of birth to 9 years old, humans' personality states integrate into one personality. These states include simple things like how to act in order to recieve food, getting affection from caregivers, self soothing, etc. Sometimes, when a child has been through enough repeated trauma, these personality states don't fully integrate. Therefore, in my case, I'm essentially a bunch of people in a meatsuit. Each personality/alter/headmate with their own sets of memories, likes, mannerisms, names, genders, etc. The dissociation that causes these different alters means that what I have experienced as our Princess is not what Z has experienced. If our Princess was experiencing it, she was present in the body to some degree, and able to use it. This is called "fronting." I am my alters.
And literally all of these parts of myself are madly in love, as family as partners as parents and children. I'm literally an entire community in here, with some variation of amnesia between us. I have always been polyamorous with my headmates, in a very real sense of the word :)
As for my daily experience, I'm usually 2-3 different alters. And I live like anyone else, except I chat with my headmates, and they respond in full sentences (that's not the case for everyone with DID). We chat and comfort each other. We can "see" each other and "touch" and even be intimate♡ We are often together when we're together with our partner :)
 
Hi Nicky!
Is Nicky one of your alters?

We are often together when we're together with our partner.

Do you and your alters have another actual person who is your partner? Is this polyamory you mention love, including romantic/sexual love, between your alters, or is there another actual person in their own body whom some of you date?
 
The article Magdlyn found was helpful! And I'm happy to explain my experience with Dissociative Identity Disorder (formerly multiple personality disorder) and answer any questions!

Pretty much, from the ages of birth to 9 years old, humans' personality states integrate into one personality. These states include simple things like how to act in order to recieve food, getting affection from caregivers, self soothing, etc. Sometimes, when a child has been through enough repeated trauma, these personality states don't fully integrate. Therefore, in my case, I'm essentially a bunch of people in a meatsuit. Each personality/alter/headmate with their own sets of memories, likes, mannerisms, names, genders, etc. The dissociation that causes these different alters means that what I have experienced as our Princess is not what Z has experienced. If our Princess was experiencing it, she was present in the body to some degree, and able to use it. This is called "fronting." I am my alters.
And literally all of these parts of myself are madly in love, as family as partners as parents and children. I'm literally an entire community in here, with some variation of amnesia between us. I have always been polyamorous with my headmates, in a very real sense of the word :)
Ah, now I understand. My first thought was DID but I didn't want to assume. Thank you very much for clarifying! This also clears up why you use different pronouns.

Are all of your parts poly with other people? Or just some of your parts? Or are they only poly with each other?
 
I have a partner outside of my head, yes. They also have DID
Is Nicky one of your alters?



Do you and your alters have another actual person who is your partner? Is this polyamory you mention love, including romantic/sexual love, between your alters, or is there another actual person in their own body whom some of you date?
I do have a committed partner outside of my system. Most of my alters are involved with them sexually and romantically :)
I was referring to my internal relationships as already being polyamorous. But my partner and I are doing the work to have other partners/relationships.
 
Is Nicky one of your alters?



Do you and your alters have another actual person who is your partner? Is this polyamory you mention love, including romantic/sexual love, between your alters, or is there another actual person in their own body whom some of you date?
No, Nicky is someone who commented on the thread :)
 
Ah, now I understand. My first thought was DID but I didn't want to assume. Thank you very much for clarifying! This also clears up why you use different pronouns.

Are all of your parts poly with other people? Or just some of your parts? Or are they only poly with each other?
You're so welcome! I'm always happy to educate.
I responded to a similar question from Magdlyn. Currently my system (all the alters in my head) is only in a relationship with one other person. But we've been discussing being polyamorous for a few months :) I currently don't have any other prospects for dating, and really just want to learn and see what to and not to do :)
 
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