Hotwives?

kdt26417

Official Greeter
Staff member
Is a hotwife the wife of a cuckold? Wiktionary suggests that a cuckold is in most cases unaware of his wife's dalliances, whereas a hotwife's husband knows and approves.

If we're looking for a better word, would "freewoman" work?
 

nycindie

Active member
If we're looking for a better word, would "freewoman" work?
I dunno what good it will do to try using a different word for a very specific kink/fetish, especially when the people who are into that kink call it hotwifery, and that is the term used in porn and at the online communities where they (the people who participate in hotwifery ) discuss it and seek out potential men to come over and fuck the "hotwives."
 

FallenAngelina

Well-known member
IWiktionary suggests that a cuckold is in most cases unaware of his wife's dalliances, whereas a hotwife's husband knows and approves.

As I understand it, the hotwife's husband not only approves, but encourages and fosters her hookups. For example, he might shop for her and lay out her specific outfits for these dates. The husband is more than an observer, as a cuckhold might be, and takes an active lady in waiting or even a Svengali role. But I know as much as you do, Kevin. I Googled it, too.
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Magdlyn

Moderator
Staff member
threesnocrowd, why come to a polyamory site to learn about hotwifing? They are two different topics. Try Fetlife or specific hotwife sites.
 

opalescent

Active member
Hotwifing tends to be more about the guy 'showing off' his hot wife - hence the name - who is so attractive that other men want her. And he gets off on how hot she is, how other men want her and on seeing her have sex with other men. I think the husband tends not to participate but be more of a voyeur but I suspect this may not be true all the time.

Cuckolding tends to have more of an element of humiliation in addition. The cuckold has the idea that he doesn't satisfy his wife, his dick isn't big enough, etc. He gets off on seeing his wife satisfied in ways he 'can't', often by someone who has a bigger dick, is more muscular, more conventionally manly, etc. He usually doesn't participate but watches.

Poly is not kink and kink is not poly but they often overlap. I don't think the occasional question is a big deal.
 

goddess1337

New member
Thank you for the post!

I have been involved with polyamory for three years now and when my husband first presented this "unorthodox" concept to me he referred to it as being a "hot wife". We have since discovered many new things and I have had a handful of lovers. I do not care for the term "hot wife" and I am thankful that this site is proving to be a place of educational opportunities.
 

PinkPig

Well-known member
So, if cuckolding and hotwifes are a thing, is there a similar fetish with men? Like hot husbandry?
 

kdt26417

Official Greeter
Staff member
I know "cuckquean" is a thing (it has a Wiktionary entry).
 

opalescent

Active member
Yep, Kevin is right. I assume there are folks who like to watch their male partners have sex with others but I don't think it has a specific name beyond voyeurism.
 
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