jayblue122
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Hello,
I have posted on here before. Right now my primary, Liz and I are long distance, but will be reunited in about 2 weeks. I am currently seeing someone, Jason, whom will be leaving for 8 months in 3 weeks. I have been seeing Jason for about a month and a bit. I have been with Liz for 3.5 years, and we have been poly for 1.4 years. My connection with Jason is the first time either of us has had a relationship outside of the two of us.
I have two concerns. Jason and Liz have not met. I have been seeing Jason almost daily since we met since we live so close. When Liz move back, we will be living together. I am concerned about the week of overlap. I know I will be excited to see Liz but I will also want to spend time with Jason before he leaves. His primary will also be around during the overlap. (He and her are also long distance) I have met her and we get along. I may be overworrried, but I worried about Jason and Liz meeting. Liz is relatively jealous of Jason and I worry it will be awkward and tough. Any advice for when your people meet?
My other concern is more prevelant. I am worried that Liz is not happy being in a poly relationship with me. I have talked to her about how I do not want to be monogomus, and that I need autonomy in my relationships with others. She understands and accepts this but I do not think she is happy about it. She initially introduced us to poly, and we agreed to be in a polyamorus relationship-- in fact I was the reluctant one at first... But from conversations we have had I do not think she is happy. She has said that there is nothing that I can do that would make it easier on her. I have tried to get her to talk to me about it more but she is always reluctant to talk about her feelings. It can be like pulling teeth.
On the flip side I do not think I have a right to say that she is not happy. Or that she cannot be happy with me. I don't think that that is my decision to make. She has decided to stay with me. I have expressed that I care about her and our relationship and that I want to make it work. I just.... I don't know if I can make her happy. I am worried about her. I don't know....
I have posted on here before. Right now my primary, Liz and I are long distance, but will be reunited in about 2 weeks. I am currently seeing someone, Jason, whom will be leaving for 8 months in 3 weeks. I have been seeing Jason for about a month and a bit. I have been with Liz for 3.5 years, and we have been poly for 1.4 years. My connection with Jason is the first time either of us has had a relationship outside of the two of us.
I have two concerns. Jason and Liz have not met. I have been seeing Jason almost daily since we met since we live so close. When Liz move back, we will be living together. I am concerned about the week of overlap. I know I will be excited to see Liz but I will also want to spend time with Jason before he leaves. His primary will also be around during the overlap. (He and her are also long distance) I have met her and we get along. I may be overworrried, but I worried about Jason and Liz meeting. Liz is relatively jealous of Jason and I worry it will be awkward and tough. Any advice for when your people meet?
My other concern is more prevelant. I am worried that Liz is not happy being in a poly relationship with me. I have talked to her about how I do not want to be monogomus, and that I need autonomy in my relationships with others. She understands and accepts this but I do not think she is happy about it. She initially introduced us to poly, and we agreed to be in a polyamorus relationship-- in fact I was the reluctant one at first... But from conversations we have had I do not think she is happy. She has said that there is nothing that I can do that would make it easier on her. I have tried to get her to talk to me about it more but she is always reluctant to talk about her feelings. It can be like pulling teeth.
On the flip side I do not think I have a right to say that she is not happy. Or that she cannot be happy with me. I don't think that that is my decision to make. She has decided to stay with me. I have expressed that I care about her and our relationship and that I want to make it work. I just.... I don't know if I can make her happy. I am worried about her. I don't know....
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