Polyamory
Seeking personal advice about STI testing---
I just exited a relationship where we were both exclusive.
I am entering a new relationship with "A." He is newly poly, has been exclusive with his spouse for many years. His wife is bi and is exploring poly (but not with me-- I am straight). She has not had any sexual partners yet.
I have just completed my STI testing (Hep C, HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Herpes) and it's all negative except HSV-1, which I already disclosed. "A" and I hope to become intimate this weekend.
Due to a medical issue with difficult veins, "A" is going to wait to get tested until his next doctor appt in a few weeks. He gets regular lab draws every few months for his condition, but needs special care in blood draws. So in other words "A" has not been tested for STI's yet. I am trusting his word about being exclusive with his wife and no other partners.
I am also newly dating "B", an experienced poly man, but we are going a very slow pace. I doubt it will become sexual for awhile. But eventually it will.
"B" is a very responsible poly guy as far as STI testing for himself and partners in his polycule.
I strongly dislike condoms, but more than that, I dislike risks of STI's to myself and partners.
Given this information,
1. what do you recommend for me and "A" as far as when we would be safe to *not* use condoms?
2. what would you recommend as far as additional testing/condom use, etc when I start a physical relationship with "B"?
I just exited a relationship where we were both exclusive.
I am entering a new relationship with "A." He is newly poly, has been exclusive with his spouse for many years. His wife is bi and is exploring poly (but not with me-- I am straight). She has not had any sexual partners yet.
I have just completed my STI testing (Hep C, HIV, Syphilis, Gonorrhea, Chlamydia, Herpes) and it's all negative except HSV-1, which I already disclosed. "A" and I hope to become intimate this weekend.
Due to a medical issue with difficult veins, "A" is going to wait to get tested until his next doctor appt in a few weeks. He gets regular lab draws every few months for his condition, but needs special care in blood draws. So in other words "A" has not been tested for STI's yet. I am trusting his word about being exclusive with his wife and no other partners.
I am also newly dating "B", an experienced poly man, but we are going a very slow pace. I doubt it will become sexual for awhile. But eventually it will.
"B" is a very responsible poly guy as far as STI testing for himself and partners in his polycule.
I strongly dislike condoms, but more than that, I dislike risks of STI's to myself and partners.
Given this information,
1. what do you recommend for me and "A" as far as when we would be safe to *not* use condoms?
2. what would you recommend as far as additional testing/condom use, etc when I start a physical relationship with "B"?