Polyamory
I think a lot of people have various insecurities that are brought to the surface through polyamourous relationships; just due to the fact is challenges us to grow in ways not expected in monogamy.
I was wondering what other people were/are insecure about? How they are dealing/delt with, those insecurities? I'm hoping this is more of a crowd-sourcing advice as opposed to one specific persons situation.
1. The first one is, when talking with any poly person, the assumption that I haven't learned from past mistakes or situations will be held against me and poly and my abilities with it will be deemed 'not good enough'.
2. The second one is that I will end up not being 'enough' for a partner. Not to much in terms of staying together forever; as that is an ideal but ultimately not a guarantee. But, more so in the "I will stop being a source of happiness and do something that will hurt them in an unforgivable way and not even friendship will be salvageable."
How I'm dealing with the first one is to partially give less fucks about peoples opinions when they're determined to misunderstand you; both in romantic and platonic situations, and to be much clearer in my explanations of situations.
With the second one, I'm working on trying to not attempt to control the future; since worrying about the worst case scenario just means if it happens I'll live through it effectively twice, and to stop listening to that internal voice that is determined to be unhelpful and mean and when it does kick in, rephrasing it in those terms.
I was wondering what other people were/are insecure about? How they are dealing/delt with, those insecurities? I'm hoping this is more of a crowd-sourcing advice as opposed to one specific persons situation.
1. The first one is, when talking with any poly person, the assumption that I haven't learned from past mistakes or situations will be held against me and poly and my abilities with it will be deemed 'not good enough'.
2. The second one is that I will end up not being 'enough' for a partner. Not to much in terms of staying together forever; as that is an ideal but ultimately not a guarantee. But, more so in the "I will stop being a source of happiness and do something that will hurt them in an unforgivable way and not even friendship will be salvageable."
How I'm dealing with the first one is to partially give less fucks about peoples opinions when they're determined to misunderstand you; both in romantic and platonic situations, and to be much clearer in my explanations of situations.
With the second one, I'm working on trying to not attempt to control the future; since worrying about the worst case scenario just means if it happens I'll live through it effectively twice, and to stop listening to that internal voice that is determined to be unhelpful and mean and when it does kick in, rephrasing it in those terms.