Is masturbation sex?

Is masturbation sex?

  • I'm a woman and I vote yes

    Votes: 28 24.1%
  • I'm a woman and I vote no

    Votes: 28 24.1%
  • I'm a man and I voted yes

    Votes: 16 13.8%
  • I'm a man and I vote no

    Votes: 25 21.6%
  • I'm gender-variant and I vote yes

    Votes: 1 0.9%
  • I'm gender-variant and I vote no

    Votes: 1 0.9%
  • Magical brownies

    Votes: 17 14.7%

  • Total voters
    116
  • Poll closed .

Magdlyn

Moderator
Staff member
I've been taking an informal poll of this irl and would like your thoughts. Please post why you voted yes or no.

Thanks!
 

clairegoad

New member
To quote one of my favorite attorneys....

I could easily argue for either position..

Yes, it is sex... physically, touching & pleasuring one's self. Without it, life is less pleasant.

No, it isn't sex.. without a partner, I lose the feedback and challenges and differences, and excitement. There's no communication, no relationship, no interaction.

I've heard discussions in Conservative Christian Women's groups about whether masturbation is cheating. (I'll assume that discussion won't happen here.;))

I remember a "shocking" women's magazine article that "revealed" that married men pleasured themselves. (Redbook? Ladies Home Journal?)
 

Ariakas

Bosun
no...not for me...its relief...like peeing.

Putting my finger in my mouth isn't giving myself oral...

It probably can be...but it isn't for me. Sex includes another body in my world :D
 

foxflame88

New member
no...not for me...its relief...like peeing.

Putting my finger in my mouth isn't giving myself oral...

It probably can be...but it isn't for me. Sex includes another body in my world :D

I couldn't say it any better than that.
 

vandalin

New member
Sexually stimulating oneself in my book is still sex, whether it is done for the pleasure or just for the release. The basic end result is still the same, orgasm.
 

Ariakas

Bosun
Sexually stimulating oneself in my book is still sex, whether it is done for the pleasure or just for the release. The basic end result is still the same, orgasm.

Does cumming relate to orgasm to you everytime?...(honest question, not being sarcastic)
 

immaterial

New member
I answered magical brownies. The reason: I am waking up to a reality for myself where everything is sex. Everything. This is an insight that is deeply spiritual for me and may or may not last. It does not seem a particularly manageable way to live my life. haha.

Immaterial
 

Magdlyn

Moderator
Staff member
I answered magical brownies. The reason: I am waking up to a reality for myself where everything is sex. Everything. This is an insight that is deeply spiritual for me and may or may not last. It does not seem a particularly manageable way to live my life. haha.

Immaterial


Heh.

I look forward to many more opinions/votes. I won't share the results of my irl poll yet, or my own opinion, as I don't want to influence anyone.
 

vandalin

New member
Does cumming relate to orgasm to you everytime?...(honest question, not being sarcastic)

Maybe it's my Vanillaness or a definition thing, but I was under the impression that cumming and orgasm were the same, just different names. Do please share your thoughts on the subject. I'm always interested in learning new things and broadening my horizons. (honest request, no sarcasm either) ;)
 

solarwindsfly

New member
I voted no because of my own personal experiences. I am not meaning to get deep or creepy here. I was abused as a kid and so if masterbation is sex then I had sex since I was around two or three. So I voted no because thats just wrong. I would never say that I had sex that early willingly. As for now... sex on first thought doesnt go into my thoughts as done alone. Although when you say masterbation it seems to me most people go to being alone. This is just my own thoughts about what i've learned from others and myself :) So sex needs intimacy with another person in my book :)
 

Ariakas

Bosun
Maybe it's my Vanillaness or a definition thing, but I was under the impression that cumming and orgasm were the same, just different names. Do please share your thoughts on the subject. I'm always interested in learning new things and broadening my horizons. (honest request, no sarcasm either) ;)

Maybe I am separating the term for my own use. But personally I can cum...which is like peeing. It happens, I am dont, "take it and go"...

I orgasm and its a totally different effect and use. Its not just a functional release of "something"...its an experience :)

For me they feel and react totally differently in my body.
 

vandalin

New member
Maybe I am separating the term for my own use. But personally I can cum...which is like peeing. It happens, I am dont, "take it and go"...

I orgasm and its a totally different effect and use. Its not just a functional release of "something"...its an experience :)

For me they feel and react totally differently in my body.

Maybe it is partially a definition thing and maybe a gender thing. Perhaps cumming and orgasm are different for men then for women. Anyone else wish to weigh in on the subject?

Although thinking about your answer, still doesn't change my reasoning...which perhaps I wasn't clear on. If Sex was the name of a book with all of the different acts as chapters, Masturbation would be a chapter, no matter the reason or feeling associated with the act. Functionally, it is sex.

Now if you wanted to separate sex into the idea of sex and fucking as two totally different things, then there would probably be a reassignment of chapters or at least what is included in those chapters.

Sorry if this seems meandering, my mind is not all there.
 

MonoVCPHG

New member
I consider sex a form of communication which includes the generation of energy. Seeing how I feel more energy when I am alone than when I had casual sex, I guess for me masturbation is sex. I guess that also means the sex I had with those people was actually less than sex...it was an experiment....nice thread, gets you thinking :)
 

Ariakas

Bosun
Now if you wanted to separate sex into the idea of sex and fucking as two totally different things, then there would probably be a reassignment of chapters or at least what is included in those chapters.

too literal. In my first response I also said I require a person there for me to consider it sex.

Cumming is a function of biology
Orgasm is a relationship building exercise :D
 

Magdlyn

Moderator
Staff member
OK, I was wondering if it was a gender thing. I was shocked recently to have 2 male friends tell me they didnt consider jerking off to be sex.

And then I asked a couple other men and got the same response.

I've always considered jilling off as sex- sex with myself. Sometimes it's a quickie, but I really like a nice 1 1/2 hr session when the mood strikes, using toys, lovely fantasies, maybe watch a little porn or read erotica first.

But as per my wonderings about intact vs circed men, maybe the orgasm a guy usually gives himself is just like a sneeze.

Do men need a partner to have it feel like sex? Do any women out there get what I am saying about having an event session, not just a quickie, when having self pleasure?
 

SourGirl

Member
For myself ;

- If I am masterbating without fantasy, it is not sex.

- If I masterbate with fantasy, it is sex.

I`m a happy self-a-sexual. :D
 

foxflame88

New member
OK, I was wondering if it was a gender thing.... Do men need a partner to have it feel like sex? Do any women out there get what I am saying about having an event session, not just a quickie, when having self pleasure?


I'm not a man, I need a partner for it to feel like sex. I do however have "event" sessions sometimes... but it still isn't sex to me if I am alone.
 

Mendalla

New member
Male and no, but I'm really still debating it because it's a question I've never thought of before. Maybe it is sex, but a different kind than I get with a partner. All I know is that masturbating leaves me feeling different than sex with my partner. Jacking off can be as or more physically intense, but the latter almost always leaves me more satisfied unless the masturbation involved a really good, vivid fantasy.

Mendalla
 
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sdguy

New member
no...not for me...its relief...like peeing.

Putting my finger in my mouth isn't giving myself oral...

It probably can be...but it isn't for me. Sex includes another body in my world :D

This is probably the best explination for me as well.. Without the interaction of another person it is more of a bodily function (one of relief) than an act of sex.
 
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