vansername
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Okay, I'm not sure the title here really got my point across, but, here's what I'm pondering. My sister and I were having a conversation yesterday about polyamory because I had just come out recently to her and my mother, and I was looking for a way to bring up my new partner (a close friend who is almost like a family member, but, I digress). Anyway, we were talking about how it's weird that people act like loving more than one person at a time is impossible or totally 100% immoral when we see it around us literally everywhere. Come on, how many teenagers have you heard whining about the fact that they're dating one person but have feelings for someone else? How many books and movies and TV shows have love triangles (or even like, love octagons. Yes, Shakespeare, I'm looking at you, Othello turned into a hot mess with all of the supposed affairs and such by the end)? We were discussing the fact that, in polyamory, people acknowledge the truth that, yes, you can love more than one person, you can have a healthy and solid relationship with more than one person, etc. So, I guess that, basically, our theory is that polyamory is really very natural and what we're instinctually inclined to do, but, societal values have taught us that monogamy is the one and only proper way to go about things, has labeled us with nasty names like "sluts" and questioned our commitments to each other (not that infidelity doesn't exist but, it's NOT poly), and most people are too ashamed when that instinct arises and won't open up due to the social stigma. I was wondering if anyone had any other opinions or interesting thoughts to add to this.