Norwegianpoly
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We are considering going for a legal divorce to be able to stay together as a family in one country. I know some who married one of their partners who do this, but have any of you experience with legal divorce and remarriage?
So far as I have read the marriage and immigration laws in my country, to stop a separation to turn into a divorce, they have to prove that you have fully regained your former romantic relationship with your (legal) ex. So I am thinking, my husband has to officially live somewhere else for a year, and I guess at least actually stay there parts of the time (but if we have a small child it will not look suspicious that he stays here a lot), but at the same time we will have lots of proof that I stay with or visited or was visited by my boyfriend, so it will not be like a traditional fraud thing where for instance people are still dating but they want extra money as a single mum, or they are marrying a platonic friend to get them visas. Our situation will not look like that at all.
Then after the divorce, and marriage, to stop us from him getting the visa to move here. the immigration office would have to again prove that it was pro forma, which they will have a hard time to do, since everyone in SOs circle knows me as his girlfriend and can testify of it. We know a lot about each other's families and life, and I am sure that if I just memorize some family names of his, we will be able to answer all the tests and question they might have. The only thing is that my family does not know him as anything other than my friend, but I plan to change this by telling them.
There has been some legal cases in my country where men who originate from countries where plural marriages are have come with one of their wives, divorced her, then married then other wife in my country as to make it legal here. They are typically not prossecuted for this, as there is no element of deception involved. The immigration office are usually after people who keep one spouse in one country and one in another and they dont actually know each other, or they look for people who manipulate the system when they are not actually in love but just want visas or money. There has been some cases recently where people where prossecuted for benifit fraud. We plan to not apply for any extra benifits or tax reductions at all, to avoid being suspected of the same (unless our lawyer says that THAT will look suspicious).
I realize the laws are different in each country, and I will seek legal advice from lawyers, just wondered if anyone in international long distance relationships have taken this route to close the distance.
So far as I have read the marriage and immigration laws in my country, to stop a separation to turn into a divorce, they have to prove that you have fully regained your former romantic relationship with your (legal) ex. So I am thinking, my husband has to officially live somewhere else for a year, and I guess at least actually stay there parts of the time (but if we have a small child it will not look suspicious that he stays here a lot), but at the same time we will have lots of proof that I stay with or visited or was visited by my boyfriend, so it will not be like a traditional fraud thing where for instance people are still dating but they want extra money as a single mum, or they are marrying a platonic friend to get them visas. Our situation will not look like that at all.
Then after the divorce, and marriage, to stop us from him getting the visa to move here. the immigration office would have to again prove that it was pro forma, which they will have a hard time to do, since everyone in SOs circle knows me as his girlfriend and can testify of it. We know a lot about each other's families and life, and I am sure that if I just memorize some family names of his, we will be able to answer all the tests and question they might have. The only thing is that my family does not know him as anything other than my friend, but I plan to change this by telling them.
There has been some legal cases in my country where men who originate from countries where plural marriages are have come with one of their wives, divorced her, then married then other wife in my country as to make it legal here. They are typically not prossecuted for this, as there is no element of deception involved. The immigration office are usually after people who keep one spouse in one country and one in another and they dont actually know each other, or they look for people who manipulate the system when they are not actually in love but just want visas or money. There has been some cases recently where people where prossecuted for benifit fraud. We plan to not apply for any extra benifits or tax reductions at all, to avoid being suspected of the same (unless our lawyer says that THAT will look suspicious).
I realize the laws are different in each country, and I will seek legal advice from lawyers, just wondered if anyone in international long distance relationships have taken this route to close the distance.
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