bluehearts200
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My husband and I have been in an open relationship for about a year. Because of my husband's work he is only home 3 weekends per month. I usually have the apartment to myself. I searched for months to find the right extra-marital partner. Finally, I met a handsome guy online who is a scientist working in stem cell research. Let's call him David. We've been seeing each other for a little over two months.
From the beginning planning dates with David has been a bit hard. I only had 3 afternoons and 4 evenings available per week. He’s usually not available in the evenings. He has been able to free up some time in his work schedule so that he could meet me one afternoon during the week at my place. Max time we've ever spent together in one afternoon has been about 4 hours.
Every week I looked forward to seeing David. But soon I felt like our relationship was trapped in a bubble – a few hours one afternoon at my place, that's it. Meeting up at his place hasn't been an option thus far. We were able to take a short walk in the park once, and one day I even convinced him to take me to a sex shop (but when we got there it was closed) but that's been the extent of our adventures. I've always wanted to have more fun with him, but nothing has ever worked out.
So finally the weekend when my husband is away was about to roll around. I had my fingers crossed hoping that I would finally get to spend a day with David. I check in with David 3 weeks in advance to see if he would be free. Somehow there was a miscommunication in our text messages (and by the way we only text) . I thought he said he would be available when but it turned out that he actually wasn't. I was disappointed, and was ready to tell him how I had been feeling about the relationship.
I sent him this text:
David I am disappointed about the quality of the time we spend together. Some sex, a walk in the park, trip to the supermarket, failed excursion to a sex shop isn't exciting for me. Im becoming bored/ frustrated. And I know my schedule is partially to blame. But it really sucks that evenings are never an option for you.
I crave some adventure with my new lover -- like going out for drinks, a movie, museum trip, night club, poetry jams, strip club, dinner, comedy shows, etc. This isnt realistic for every week but maybe once a month would be nice.
Starting January my schedule should more open. class 2 evenings a week and work in the mornings. I hope we can find a way to work toward something that satisfies the both of us.
Later that night I messaged him apologizing for coming on too strong. It’s been 4 days and still no response from him. I feel like I spoiled everything, but am also angry that we couldn’t talk about this more. I am new at this open relationship thing, and want to learn and grow from this experience. Looking for some wisdom from those of you who have been at this for longer than I have.
From the beginning planning dates with David has been a bit hard. I only had 3 afternoons and 4 evenings available per week. He’s usually not available in the evenings. He has been able to free up some time in his work schedule so that he could meet me one afternoon during the week at my place. Max time we've ever spent together in one afternoon has been about 4 hours.
Every week I looked forward to seeing David. But soon I felt like our relationship was trapped in a bubble – a few hours one afternoon at my place, that's it. Meeting up at his place hasn't been an option thus far. We were able to take a short walk in the park once, and one day I even convinced him to take me to a sex shop (but when we got there it was closed) but that's been the extent of our adventures. I've always wanted to have more fun with him, but nothing has ever worked out.
So finally the weekend when my husband is away was about to roll around. I had my fingers crossed hoping that I would finally get to spend a day with David. I check in with David 3 weeks in advance to see if he would be free. Somehow there was a miscommunication in our text messages (and by the way we only text) . I thought he said he would be available when but it turned out that he actually wasn't. I was disappointed, and was ready to tell him how I had been feeling about the relationship.
I sent him this text:
David I am disappointed about the quality of the time we spend together. Some sex, a walk in the park, trip to the supermarket, failed excursion to a sex shop isn't exciting for me. Im becoming bored/ frustrated. And I know my schedule is partially to blame. But it really sucks that evenings are never an option for you.
I crave some adventure with my new lover -- like going out for drinks, a movie, museum trip, night club, poetry jams, strip club, dinner, comedy shows, etc. This isnt realistic for every week but maybe once a month would be nice.
Starting January my schedule should more open. class 2 evenings a week and work in the mornings. I hope we can find a way to work toward something that satisfies the both of us.
Later that night I messaged him apologizing for coming on too strong. It’s been 4 days and still no response from him. I feel like I spoiled everything, but am also angry that we couldn’t talk about this more. I am new at this open relationship thing, and want to learn and grow from this experience. Looking for some wisdom from those of you who have been at this for longer than I have.