I agree that sounds like a hard limit
My wife's GF is having a crisis - want to talk to ME alone
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1. It sounds like you're doing well agreeing with IG's points, so IG feels heard and appreciated. That's easy for you. The hard part will be to stop saying yes to please others, and actually saying no. Therapy can help with this.
2. What with being school teachers, and trying to carry on a secret lesbian affair, the ladies are playing with fire. If they get outed somehow they'll be in deep doodoo. Polyamory is not understood; it's a new concept. Heck, being gay or bi and having it be legal is still quite new. But being bi, married and poly while teaching, in conservative states, can seem like lax morals to some. Being transgender can also still get people fired in some states. Polyamory is only recognized in certain states as being morally neutral.
I assume none of your adult kids, their partners, or grandchildren know that Red Queen is your shared lover... Being in deeply in the closet (about sexual identity or sexual preference) sucks.
2. What with being school teachers, and trying to carry on a secret lesbian affair, the ladies are playing with fire. If they get outed somehow they'll be in deep doodoo. Polyamory is not understood; it's a new concept. Heck, being gay or bi and having it be legal is still quite new. But being bi, married and poly while teaching, in conservative states, can seem like lax morals to some. Being transgender can also still get people fired in some states. Polyamory is only recognized in certain states as being morally neutral.
I assume none of your adult kids, their partners, or grandchildren know that Red Queen is your shared lover... Being in deeply in the closet (about sexual identity or sexual preference) sucks.