So my wife and I are 37 years old and in our early 20's we played around with threesomes, they were fine and great but we were both young and didn't know how to control emotions or stress. On vacation last week I noticed a man with a woman on each arm and he looked happy as can be, no stress in life or none that is showing. Anyways my wife shows up a few days after I and I bring this guy up that I saw and told her I wished she or WE had a girlfriend. At first she looked stressed by this and I said if this is something stressful then we can drop it now and not explore this.
Moving forward she brings it up to me again and we chat, nothing huge but a nice chat about it. On our 8 hour long car ride home this topic was about 90% of the conversation. We realized for about 3 years we had a GF, we just didn't realize it. She became a great friend, wanted to focus on her career and raising her son and wasn't looking to date, so her needs to be with a couple worked perfect. We did everything together from time to time, trips, bbq, bdays, and bedroom activities. The rules were simple, if she was going to venture away from us it was fine, just tell us before hand so we can all stay safe. After years with her we all parted ways but until yesterday I had never realized she was our own girlfriend.
After some reading yesterday we came across Poly, this word is new to me and this is where I need some help with what it all means. I will outline what we are looking for with the hopes I get a better searchable term.
We have been together since 96, married in 00 and have one son. She is Bisexual and I am a straight male. We are looking for a woman who want's to be with us only, cannot have a bf or husband or outside flings. We want to stay clean and run zero risk of disease.
We are not looking to find the first woman and run with it, we want her to be like a best friend, enjoy the things we do, travel or want to travel like we want to or do. Give my wife things that I cannot always give, we are very sexually active but not 100% looking for the hookup factor, we are looking for a partner that enjoys the other 80% of our lives and the rest can come later. What is the term for any of this? I have read about the unicorn factor and I am unsure if we are searching the right way or is there a way?
We do know we enjoy this life, we would have to keep it under wraps as my son is 16 and I don't think he would understand. There are work around's to this and we hope to find someone we can share our life events with and share theirs with us.
Thanks for reading
D
Moving forward she brings it up to me again and we chat, nothing huge but a nice chat about it. On our 8 hour long car ride home this topic was about 90% of the conversation. We realized for about 3 years we had a GF, we just didn't realize it. She became a great friend, wanted to focus on her career and raising her son and wasn't looking to date, so her needs to be with a couple worked perfect. We did everything together from time to time, trips, bbq, bdays, and bedroom activities. The rules were simple, if she was going to venture away from us it was fine, just tell us before hand so we can all stay safe. After years with her we all parted ways but until yesterday I had never realized she was our own girlfriend.
After some reading yesterday we came across Poly, this word is new to me and this is where I need some help with what it all means. I will outline what we are looking for with the hopes I get a better searchable term.
We have been together since 96, married in 00 and have one son. She is Bisexual and I am a straight male. We are looking for a woman who want's to be with us only, cannot have a bf or husband or outside flings. We want to stay clean and run zero risk of disease.
We are not looking to find the first woman and run with it, we want her to be like a best friend, enjoy the things we do, travel or want to travel like we want to or do. Give my wife things that I cannot always give, we are very sexually active but not 100% looking for the hookup factor, we are looking for a partner that enjoys the other 80% of our lives and the rest can come later. What is the term for any of this? I have read about the unicorn factor and I am unsure if we are searching the right way or is there a way?
We do know we enjoy this life, we would have to keep it under wraps as my son is 16 and I don't think he would understand. There are work around's to this and we hope to find someone we can share our life events with and share theirs with us.
Thanks for reading
D