Polyamory
I will copy the start of the story from the introduction thread...
"My husband and I have been together nearly 7 years. We have 2 small children at home that I care for full time.
We started swinging in October so I could have relations with women, which I'd been missing.
I'd always known I love a big family. I enjoy the old way of a lot of adult family members living together. I'm a care taker and have a lot of love to share. I had offhandedly mentioned this to my husband and he never had a problem with it that he mentioned to me.
In the course of our swinging, we've found a couple that we are so compatible with it's nearly crazy. It's like we've met a mix of ourselves in this other couple. I mentioned the direction of our relationship with them to my husband last night and he stated he wouldn't mind growing a long-term loving relationship with these folks. I agreed that it sounded like a good idea. We have entered the poly mindset, I believe, and I've come here for guidance and support for our journey."
And I will continue. After my husband and I spoke of our preferences, we decided to bring it to the other couple. We didn't want to lead ourselves somewhere with complacency and them not have any idea what was going on. I discussed it with the Other Husband (OH) so he would discuss it with the Other Wife (OW). OH declared that he'd rather have us as 'vanilla' (non-sexual) friends than go toward romance. OW said she was satisfied with our 'friends with benefits' situation. Though I'm a little hurt by OH's preference to lose the little closeness we have now, I'm glad that OW would like to keep our benefits going.
I'm hoping I can contain my emotional attachment and keep it at a more platonic level through this experience. My husband has been quite supportive and understanding of this journey. I think it'll go super if we can actually find folks that have the same interests/ideals, AND are willing to find love, along with the sex.
So, on to my question. While most of our swinging is very separate from our lives, we have a couple friends who share two circles, such as the aforementioned couple. Should we seek poly love outside the swing scene, or is that a prime place to cultivate such relationships, as long as we honestly present ourselves?
The first step is always the hardest.
-Ember
"My husband and I have been together nearly 7 years. We have 2 small children at home that I care for full time.
We started swinging in October so I could have relations with women, which I'd been missing.
I'd always known I love a big family. I enjoy the old way of a lot of adult family members living together. I'm a care taker and have a lot of love to share. I had offhandedly mentioned this to my husband and he never had a problem with it that he mentioned to me.
In the course of our swinging, we've found a couple that we are so compatible with it's nearly crazy. It's like we've met a mix of ourselves in this other couple. I mentioned the direction of our relationship with them to my husband last night and he stated he wouldn't mind growing a long-term loving relationship with these folks. I agreed that it sounded like a good idea. We have entered the poly mindset, I believe, and I've come here for guidance and support for our journey."
And I will continue. After my husband and I spoke of our preferences, we decided to bring it to the other couple. We didn't want to lead ourselves somewhere with complacency and them not have any idea what was going on. I discussed it with the Other Husband (OH) so he would discuss it with the Other Wife (OW). OH declared that he'd rather have us as 'vanilla' (non-sexual) friends than go toward romance. OW said she was satisfied with our 'friends with benefits' situation. Though I'm a little hurt by OH's preference to lose the little closeness we have now, I'm glad that OW would like to keep our benefits going.
I'm hoping I can contain my emotional attachment and keep it at a more platonic level through this experience. My husband has been quite supportive and understanding of this journey. I think it'll go super if we can actually find folks that have the same interests/ideals, AND are willing to find love, along with the sex.
So, on to my question. While most of our swinging is very separate from our lives, we have a couple friends who share two circles, such as the aforementioned couple. Should we seek poly love outside the swing scene, or is that a prime place to cultivate such relationships, as long as we honestly present ourselves?
The first step is always the hardest.
-Ember