Hi Hi All,
I've been trying to find such a site with "like-minded souls" to help me (us) as we start this new stage in our marriage.
My husband Jason I have been married for 2 years, together for 4. After my first marriage ended as a disaster of distrust and no respect, I made it a point to be totally up front with who I am, and what I think, with the "next guy." So, when we first met, I told Jason all my dirty secrets, embarrassing history and past experiences.
That includes telling him when I find other women sexy. I tell him that I'd love to have sex with his best friend. I tell him I'm really attracted to the idea of expanding our relationship to include other people. (He's straight, I'm bi-curious, with a bit of experience.) Over all of this, Jason's primary response has been supportive. He's said he's all for it, as long as I don't call out someone else's name in bed.
Things really started transforming from the idle fantasy stage to possible reality a month or so ago. Jason's best friend Argo started texting me. I asked him quite frankly if he and his wife were poly. I had very strong suspicions, based on some Facebook posts. They most definitely are. Argo and I began something of a sexting relationship, with Jason's full knowledge and approval.
We've starting talking about having a foursome, which I find very appealing. However, Argo's wife Medea is sweet, but not entirely my type. She and Jason don't have a very strong chemistry either. She sees him more as a brother. She says she's open to the foursome, but doesn't participate very actively in the pre-event conversations, working up the appetite, so to speak.
Argo has reined things in pretty sharply with me lately. It seems to me that he's concerned that he and I have more of a bond than the other two in the prospective "quad." They are most definitely up for swinging, but get really distant and awkward whenever things get poly-ish. Totally fine, everyone has their own limits.
That being said, I'm frustrated as hell now! I was really really enjoying what my relationship with Argo (albeit almost entirely over text) was doing for me and for my marriage. If Argo and Medea are not up for a more emotional thing, and just wanna fuck, that's not appealing to me.
If all Jason and I wanted was casual, borderline-anonymous sex, I know we could find that pretty quickly in the Casual Encounters section of Craigslist. I want the friendship/relationship to be deep, to go with the mind-blowing sex (since that's the best way for me to have mind-blowing sex, to begin with!).
Anyway, I find myself really really really wanting to find this mythical other couple to be very special friends with benefits. I thought it could be this couple, but it's not panning out that way. So I found my way to this forum, and now I'm trying to determine the best way to find my ideal FWBs. I feel a bit daunted, like I did when I was single and trying to find the guy that was right for me. How do you filter through all the Mr. & Ms. Wrongs to find the Mr. & Ms. Right?
So, that's me (us) and my (our) story! I look forward to gaining insight and a better understanding through all of you here.
Thanks,
Nony
P.S. We have a one-year old son, and we're expecting #2 in July, so I know now is probably not the time for us to kick off a new poly relationship, but it's something that's been on my mind for a long time, and something we've talked about quite a bit.
I've been trying to find such a site with "like-minded souls" to help me (us) as we start this new stage in our marriage.
My husband Jason I have been married for 2 years, together for 4. After my first marriage ended as a disaster of distrust and no respect, I made it a point to be totally up front with who I am, and what I think, with the "next guy." So, when we first met, I told Jason all my dirty secrets, embarrassing history and past experiences.
That includes telling him when I find other women sexy. I tell him that I'd love to have sex with his best friend. I tell him I'm really attracted to the idea of expanding our relationship to include other people. (He's straight, I'm bi-curious, with a bit of experience.) Over all of this, Jason's primary response has been supportive. He's said he's all for it, as long as I don't call out someone else's name in bed.
Things really started transforming from the idle fantasy stage to possible reality a month or so ago. Jason's best friend Argo started texting me. I asked him quite frankly if he and his wife were poly. I had very strong suspicions, based on some Facebook posts. They most definitely are. Argo and I began something of a sexting relationship, with Jason's full knowledge and approval.
We've starting talking about having a foursome, which I find very appealing. However, Argo's wife Medea is sweet, but not entirely my type. She and Jason don't have a very strong chemistry either. She sees him more as a brother. She says she's open to the foursome, but doesn't participate very actively in the pre-event conversations, working up the appetite, so to speak.
Argo has reined things in pretty sharply with me lately. It seems to me that he's concerned that he and I have more of a bond than the other two in the prospective "quad." They are most definitely up for swinging, but get really distant and awkward whenever things get poly-ish. Totally fine, everyone has their own limits.
That being said, I'm frustrated as hell now! I was really really enjoying what my relationship with Argo (albeit almost entirely over text) was doing for me and for my marriage. If Argo and Medea are not up for a more emotional thing, and just wanna fuck, that's not appealing to me.
If all Jason and I wanted was casual, borderline-anonymous sex, I know we could find that pretty quickly in the Casual Encounters section of Craigslist. I want the friendship/relationship to be deep, to go with the mind-blowing sex (since that's the best way for me to have mind-blowing sex, to begin with!).
Anyway, I find myself really really really wanting to find this mythical other couple to be very special friends with benefits. I thought it could be this couple, but it's not panning out that way. So I found my way to this forum, and now I'm trying to determine the best way to find my ideal FWBs. I feel a bit daunted, like I did when I was single and trying to find the guy that was right for me. How do you filter through all the Mr. & Ms. Wrongs to find the Mr. & Ms. Right?
So, that's me (us) and my (our) story! I look forward to gaining insight and a better understanding through all of you here.
Thanks,
Nony
P.S. We have a one-year old son, and we're expecting #2 in July, so I know now is probably not the time for us to kick off a new poly relationship, but it's something that's been on my mind for a long time, and something we've talked about quite a bit.
