MRGilbertGirl
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I recently got engaged to an amazing man. The only way I know to explain this is, as an engagement present he gave me his best friend and battle buddy (Marine Corps veterans). It came as a shock to me that he was okay with the idea of his friend and I sleeping together, but he wasn't just okay with it, he likes it. It has taken me a little bit to get accustomed to the idea that both of these men are perfectly fine with this arrangement. And to add more shock, the best friend told the fiance he is in love with me too! My fiance is still perfectly fine with this, even smiled and told me he couldn't be happier for me. All three of us live in the same house together now. The guys sat down and decided on the living arrangements together. I am allowed to be with whichever man I choose whenever I want, whether just cuddling or going out or whatever. Monday through Thursday I am to sleep in the bed with my fiance. Friday through Sunday, I sleep with the boyfriend. At first, I was uncomfortable and skiddish about everything. But both of these beautifully amazing men have had so much patience with me, and have done their best to make sure that they ease my uneasiness and doubts. And they spoil me like crazy. Both men have added me to their checking accounts, the fiance showers me with little gifts and surprises, the boyfriend bought me a brand new truck, and they are both teaching me so many new things "intimately"!
As amazing and wonderful as our arrangement is, I still have my reservations and doubts. I know that my fiance and I are getting married, I know he loves me more than anything. I don't understand how the boyfriend can swear he loves me and yet be okay that I am marrying his best friend. I know the guys had a talk about who comes first in my life. The rule was written in stone from day one that no matter what feelings the boyfriend and I developed for one another, my fiance would always be first. And yes, I am wording it much differently than they did. I believe their exact words were, they laid down the law of exactly who I belong to. I'm not sure that we are all going about this the right way at all, but I don't want to ruin anything with either of these men because I do honestly love them both. But I'm afraid someone is going toget hurt sooner or later.
Does anyone have any advice with a situation like this???
As amazing and wonderful as our arrangement is, I still have my reservations and doubts. I know that my fiance and I are getting married, I know he loves me more than anything. I don't understand how the boyfriend can swear he loves me and yet be okay that I am marrying his best friend. I know the guys had a talk about who comes first in my life. The rule was written in stone from day one that no matter what feelings the boyfriend and I developed for one another, my fiance would always be first. And yes, I am wording it much differently than they did. I believe their exact words were, they laid down the law of exactly who I belong to. I'm not sure that we are all going about this the right way at all, but I don't want to ruin anything with either of these men because I do honestly love them both. But I'm afraid someone is going toget hurt sooner or later.
Does anyone have any advice with a situation like this???