Hi, I'm Scott from Florida. I am a bisexual man married to a woman for almost 20 years. We have very open-minded nearly grown teen girls (one bi, one lesbian).
As my handle suggests, she is the boss. I really sucked as an "equal," so my wife expects me to be her domestic. There is still room for improvement, but the house looks pretty good. Mind you I have other talents that she need me for, like fixing the internet/computers/phones/tablet/car/etc.
In her first marriage, my wife was free and rather expected to play around. She had a man at home with the dinner, safety and, for a time, good friendship. When she was out she could go anywhere and do anything or anybody she wanted. This autonomy that she had never quite went away.
We have talked at length about her taking another husband. We don't want a fling or playmate, we have had that in the past. We want a real long term relationship with a man that will give her things that I can not. I have already moved my things from her bedroom and sometimes sleep elsewhere in the house, so she can spread her wings a little. I know that keeping herself mostly to me is out of her nature. That fact that she has not taken a lover is a testament to her love for me despite my many flaws.
Normally one dates before commitment, so how is that supposed to go? She goes out somewhere and meets a candidate to bring him home? Do we do personals? That seems too much like hookup sex. I know she is a little scared of being discovered, or falling for him in a monogamous way. Monogamy for them wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker for me, if I get to stay.
I have my druthers which are not requirements. I'd like him to be bi with a fairly good attraction to me as well. He could even be straight, if he has the right attitude. It'd be nice if he were a couple/few years younger than us. Also would be nice if he had a good job. I'd be tickled pink to see her playful with a new man. I would love to cook and clean for a man, because it has been a long long time since that has happened.
With as many people who identify as bisexual now, how can there not be poly marriage. I would feel most complete with a husband and a wife. This does not in any way diminish my love for my wife and the mother of my children. I can't say that I am 50/50 right in the middle bi, but around 55/45 or maybe 60/40.
I want her to feel free to do what feels right without a thought to whatever other people may say.
Thanks for reading. I haven't been able to get this out to anyone else but my wife for years. It feels good to put it down on virtual paper.
I'm sure that if I had memorized the terms this would have been much easier to say.
As my handle suggests, she is the boss. I really sucked as an "equal," so my wife expects me to be her domestic. There is still room for improvement, but the house looks pretty good. Mind you I have other talents that she need me for, like fixing the internet/computers/phones/tablet/car/etc.
In her first marriage, my wife was free and rather expected to play around. She had a man at home with the dinner, safety and, for a time, good friendship. When she was out she could go anywhere and do anything or anybody she wanted. This autonomy that she had never quite went away.
We have talked at length about her taking another husband. We don't want a fling or playmate, we have had that in the past. We want a real long term relationship with a man that will give her things that I can not. I have already moved my things from her bedroom and sometimes sleep elsewhere in the house, so she can spread her wings a little. I know that keeping herself mostly to me is out of her nature. That fact that she has not taken a lover is a testament to her love for me despite my many flaws.
Normally one dates before commitment, so how is that supposed to go? She goes out somewhere and meets a candidate to bring him home? Do we do personals? That seems too much like hookup sex. I know she is a little scared of being discovered, or falling for him in a monogamous way. Monogamy for them wouldn't necessarily be a deal breaker for me, if I get to stay.
I have my druthers which are not requirements. I'd like him to be bi with a fairly good attraction to me as well. He could even be straight, if he has the right attitude. It'd be nice if he were a couple/few years younger than us. Also would be nice if he had a good job. I'd be tickled pink to see her playful with a new man. I would love to cook and clean for a man, because it has been a long long time since that has happened.
With as many people who identify as bisexual now, how can there not be poly marriage. I would feel most complete with a husband and a wife. This does not in any way diminish my love for my wife and the mother of my children. I can't say that I am 50/50 right in the middle bi, but around 55/45 or maybe 60/40.
I want her to feel free to do what feels right without a thought to whatever other people may say.
Thanks for reading. I haven't been able to get this out to anyone else but my wife for years. It feels good to put it down on virtual paper.
I'm sure that if I had memorized the terms this would have been much easier to say.