Polyamory
Hi everyone!
I am new to poly. Here is the intro I made on the introductions page as it sums me up better than anything I can conjure at this time...
"Hi! Feel free to vet me on FB. See my profile for details. My avatar is just because I can't be bothered to find or make a good photo at this time lol
I am indeed the aforementioned Preston. I am 37M, cis-while-male. I have been divorced since 2022 and am considering if I am poly. As a teenager I struggled to maintain a steady girlfriend and was more comfortable having several "special" lady-relationships (though I was raised Mormon so sex wasn't allowed). I was married for 11 years and, unfortunately, had several emotional affairs with other women, married or otherwise. Finally, the ex and I decided to divorce, and our relationship has been better because of it. We have had 3 beautiful children together (10, 8, and 3). I voluntarily gave her custody of the kids at the time of our divorce as I was not in a good mental space at that time. My ex has been very generous with visitations, and we both work together to perform childcare duties whilst both working different shifts.
I have two beautiful doggos I love very much. I just acquired them this year, and I never thought I could love animals so much!
I currently work as a security guard for Lockheed Martin (I don't like supporting the military industrial complex but it pays well with good prospects of raises/promotions). My goal is to get into cybersecurity. I wish to create financial security for myself and my kids while I continue to work on rebuilding my life.
I have too many hobbies. My favorite is tabletop roleplaying games. I am creating my own TTRPG, though much like Tolkien himself I may be finished with this project by the time I am 50 because I keep changing my mind on things. I have ADHD and believe myself to be autistic (it just makes sense to me). I enjoy specific activities as they are comfortable to me and have a hard time trying new things. I like the following videogames the most: Skyrim, Command & Conquer, Minecraft, Terraria, Borderlands 2, and Fallout 4. I also play several music instruments and am a baritone vocalist. I went to school for audio production. I watch YouTube exclusively and make videos on occasion. I don't really do TV or movies, though if I have to I enjoy commentating on them. I have a habit of messing around on my laptop while watching movies with movie watchers. It is a good compromise for me, but I still will comment on the video and be partially present. I recognize that I enjoy what I do out of comfort and familiarity.
I am presently an atheist, exmo, and firmly left-wing politics (pro-choice, pro-LGBT, anti-Project 2025, and so on...). This comes from over 30 years of being conservative Mormon. My life has changed drastically in the past few years. It's a long story but I just noticed things that didn't make sense and finally did my own research, coming to my own conclusions, and realizing there is a better life for me not practicing those beliefs. I am a natural black-and-white thinker and was raised to rigidly defend and convert others to my beliefs, which I recognize is not good. Still, I struggle accepting others for beliefs that are anathema to my own. Still I try, but finding love has been difficult because I am so passionate about my own views. They are views I want to express when I am with someone, but living in a very conservative state means I have to keep quiet or find other ways to express them. I feel like a pressure cooker sometimes. However, because of my own life transition I recognize the need for patience and understanding, so open-mindedness is something I must actively work on.
I value my alone time greatly, but I like having significant others close by if I need attention. Just because I want to be alone doesn't mean I want to be lonely, if that makes sense.
I love dad-jokes and puns. I love words, I study etymology, and I look for clever ways to bring them up in conversation, usually to comedic or dramatic effect. If I get comfortable around you, beware! Your own words can and will be used for my amusement
. I am usually a better friend than a lover, but I crave that intimacy, hence why I am here. My love language is words of affirmation, and I love giving spontaneous gifts. I am good with hugs and being physically present, even if my mind may be elsewhere. Sometimes I am working on an idea or project and just need to let it all out before I can be emotionally available.
Good luck to everyone here!"
THAT novel aside...I am unsure what I am looking for. I just got out of a long-distance relationship about three weeks ago, and it only lasted a couple of months (it was a mail-in-bride situation, shoulda known better). Before that I was purely single and getting to know myself. I am presently single and looking for some kind of commonality and eventually companionship. I know I like girls...that's about it. I have only ever had sex with my ex, no other sexual history to speak of. I feel like I bond with women easier than men.
Dating Preferences:
*Age preference between late 20s and any 40s.
*curvey build
*gamer, roleplayer
*geek, goth, grunge
*humorus, warm, loving, patient personality
*humor
*humor...
*...um...
*...spoon?...
*can appreciate my anti-organized religious/political rants
*good back and forth humor
*sex preference-I am a slow movie romance kind of guy....I guess I am boring lol but I am willing to be educated. I also like roleplay. I like the idea of conversation during sex, sharing what is working and what we want. Also, I don't view porn very much, but I hope it is okay with you if sometimes I do. Or we can watch it together. For me it's been educational and to just help me get off when I am alone.
*AND...humor
After some studying, I think I might appreciate a hierarchal poly relationship (me and someone else having each other's back, but having other partners too, and even are willing to be open about those relationships with each other), but I will never know until I try it. Regardless, being friends first is important to me.
At the very least I hope to find a warm community and a sweet embrace....especially the vampiric kind
I am new to poly. Here is the intro I made on the introductions page as it sums me up better than anything I can conjure at this time...
"Hi! Feel free to vet me on FB. See my profile for details. My avatar is just because I can't be bothered to find or make a good photo at this time lol
I am indeed the aforementioned Preston. I am 37M, cis-while-male. I have been divorced since 2022 and am considering if I am poly. As a teenager I struggled to maintain a steady girlfriend and was more comfortable having several "special" lady-relationships (though I was raised Mormon so sex wasn't allowed). I was married for 11 years and, unfortunately, had several emotional affairs with other women, married or otherwise. Finally, the ex and I decided to divorce, and our relationship has been better because of it. We have had 3 beautiful children together (10, 8, and 3). I voluntarily gave her custody of the kids at the time of our divorce as I was not in a good mental space at that time. My ex has been very generous with visitations, and we both work together to perform childcare duties whilst both working different shifts.
I have two beautiful doggos I love very much. I just acquired them this year, and I never thought I could love animals so much!
I currently work as a security guard for Lockheed Martin (I don't like supporting the military industrial complex but it pays well with good prospects of raises/promotions). My goal is to get into cybersecurity. I wish to create financial security for myself and my kids while I continue to work on rebuilding my life.
I have too many hobbies. My favorite is tabletop roleplaying games. I am creating my own TTRPG, though much like Tolkien himself I may be finished with this project by the time I am 50 because I keep changing my mind on things. I have ADHD and believe myself to be autistic (it just makes sense to me). I enjoy specific activities as they are comfortable to me and have a hard time trying new things. I like the following videogames the most: Skyrim, Command & Conquer, Minecraft, Terraria, Borderlands 2, and Fallout 4. I also play several music instruments and am a baritone vocalist. I went to school for audio production. I watch YouTube exclusively and make videos on occasion. I don't really do TV or movies, though if I have to I enjoy commentating on them. I have a habit of messing around on my laptop while watching movies with movie watchers. It is a good compromise for me, but I still will comment on the video and be partially present. I recognize that I enjoy what I do out of comfort and familiarity.
I am presently an atheist, exmo, and firmly left-wing politics (pro-choice, pro-LGBT, anti-Project 2025, and so on...). This comes from over 30 years of being conservative Mormon. My life has changed drastically in the past few years. It's a long story but I just noticed things that didn't make sense and finally did my own research, coming to my own conclusions, and realizing there is a better life for me not practicing those beliefs. I am a natural black-and-white thinker and was raised to rigidly defend and convert others to my beliefs, which I recognize is not good. Still, I struggle accepting others for beliefs that are anathema to my own. Still I try, but finding love has been difficult because I am so passionate about my own views. They are views I want to express when I am with someone, but living in a very conservative state means I have to keep quiet or find other ways to express them. I feel like a pressure cooker sometimes. However, because of my own life transition I recognize the need for patience and understanding, so open-mindedness is something I must actively work on.
I value my alone time greatly, but I like having significant others close by if I need attention. Just because I want to be alone doesn't mean I want to be lonely, if that makes sense.
I love dad-jokes and puns. I love words, I study etymology, and I look for clever ways to bring them up in conversation, usually to comedic or dramatic effect. If I get comfortable around you, beware! Your own words can and will be used for my amusement
. I am usually a better friend than a lover, but I crave that intimacy, hence why I am here. My love language is words of affirmation, and I love giving spontaneous gifts. I am good with hugs and being physically present, even if my mind may be elsewhere. Sometimes I am working on an idea or project and just need to let it all out before I can be emotionally available.Good luck to everyone here!"
THAT novel aside...I am unsure what I am looking for. I just got out of a long-distance relationship about three weeks ago, and it only lasted a couple of months (it was a mail-in-bride situation, shoulda known better). Before that I was purely single and getting to know myself. I am presently single and looking for some kind of commonality and eventually companionship. I know I like girls...that's about it. I have only ever had sex with my ex, no other sexual history to speak of. I feel like I bond with women easier than men.
Dating Preferences:
*Age preference between late 20s and any 40s.
*curvey build
*gamer, roleplayer
*geek, goth, grunge
*humorus, warm, loving, patient personality
*humor
*humor...
*...um...
*...spoon?...
*can appreciate my anti-organized religious/political rants
*good back and forth humor
*sex preference-I am a slow movie romance kind of guy....I guess I am boring lol but I am willing to be educated. I also like roleplay. I like the idea of conversation during sex, sharing what is working and what we want. Also, I don't view porn very much, but I hope it is okay with you if sometimes I do. Or we can watch it together. For me it's been educational and to just help me get off when I am alone.
*AND...humor
After some studying, I think I might appreciate a hierarchal poly relationship (me and someone else having each other's back, but having other partners too, and even are willing to be open about those relationships with each other), but I will never know until I try it. Regardless, being friends first is important to me.
At the very least I hope to find a warm community and a sweet embrace....especially the vampiric kind