Polyamory
Hi Everyone,
I am sure there are great examples out there, but I cannot find them. Thought I would ask here. When considering whether polyamory (and/or open marriage) is the right choice, what questions do you think people, specifically married couples, should ask themselves, both to be sure it is what you want and to explore the possible hardships and pitfalls?
I have a few below I have been knocking around:
Are you poly, or just lonely? Would friendship also meet that need?
What is missing from the monogamous relationship that you need from others?
Do you need this enough to risk ending your marriage?
Would you be okay if you were no longer the primary partner and your partner found someone else they loved more?
Would you be okay with your children doing what you are doing when they grow up?
If you could get everything you needed from a single partner, would you want to be poly?
Do you believe you can manage the resource-juggling of multiple partners, work, personal life and children?
Do you want the drama and pain that comes with new relationships?
Time being a zero sum game, would you be okay if your partner took 50% of their time away from you and your family to give it to another?
Are you okay with your partner spending money on dating another person?
I am sure there are great examples out there, but I cannot find them. Thought I would ask here. When considering whether polyamory (and/or open marriage) is the right choice, what questions do you think people, specifically married couples, should ask themselves, both to be sure it is what you want and to explore the possible hardships and pitfalls?
I have a few below I have been knocking around:
Are you poly, or just lonely? Would friendship also meet that need?
What is missing from the monogamous relationship that you need from others?
Do you need this enough to risk ending your marriage?
Would you be okay if you were no longer the primary partner and your partner found someone else they loved more?
Would you be okay with your children doing what you are doing when they grow up?
If you could get everything you needed from a single partner, would you want to be poly?
Do you believe you can manage the resource-juggling of multiple partners, work, personal life and children?
Do you want the drama and pain that comes with new relationships?
Time being a zero sum game, would you be okay if your partner took 50% of their time away from you and your family to give it to another?
Are you okay with your partner spending money on dating another person?