Polyamory
Hello,
I am new to this site and I have a question for everybody. I have always wondered, how do polyamorists/polygamists deal with/think about the "specialness" issue?
If you are one of many, aren't you un-special?
If everybody is special, isn't everybody not special?
Isn't love/time spread wide, spread thin, hence un-special?
Wouldn't you actually be able to/want to just choose one lover if you really wanted her or him to feel special, because you deeply love and care about her, instead of chasing lust?
If you are intimate with lover A, arent you forgetting about lover B in that moment, hence lover B is not special?
If you aren't giving 100 percent, isn't it un-special?
I would like everybody's opinions and thoughts, please. Thank you.
I have always been curious about polyamory, but just cannot get past the special issue.
I am trying to understand.
(BTW, I do not believe romantic love is the same as sexual lust or family love. I think it's more.)
Please shed some light.
Strawberry Moon
I am new to this site and I have a question for everybody. I have always wondered, how do polyamorists/polygamists deal with/think about the "specialness" issue?
If you are one of many, aren't you un-special?
If everybody is special, isn't everybody not special?
Isn't love/time spread wide, spread thin, hence un-special?
Wouldn't you actually be able to/want to just choose one lover if you really wanted her or him to feel special, because you deeply love and care about her, instead of chasing lust?
If you are intimate with lover A, arent you forgetting about lover B in that moment, hence lover B is not special?
If you aren't giving 100 percent, isn't it un-special?
I would like everybody's opinions and thoughts, please. Thank you.
I have always been curious about polyamory, but just cannot get past the special issue.
I am trying to understand.
(BTW, I do not believe romantic love is the same as sexual lust or family love. I think it's more.)
Please shed some light.
Strawberry Moon