The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

RunicWolf

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The funny thing is, I wasn't looking for a "poly group". I joined a re-enactment group, and there's a small sub-group that meets each week to sew, knit, weave, bs and drink. I found almost an instant bond with these people. It just turns out that a couple people in the group are currently actively poly and a few more who have been in poly relationships in the past.

Heh. I find more poly and alt lifestyle people at re-enactment groups then anywhere else.

As for how I'm doing? I'm doing okay. Work is trucking along well and has been treating me amazingly well. I'm going to a Dag event in about two weeks and will be gone there for a week. I still have stuff to do, but I'm feeling lazy today.
 

BrigidsDaughter

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Getting excited for Rag. Wendigo and I spent the evening working out my corset design and fixing my sword while Runic Wolf was feeling lazy. Though I think we all ended up getting the same amount of work done, just at different times through out the day. :)
 
Oh look it's a How Are You Doing thread! I don't have a blog so I don't have some place to write how I'm doing, this seems a good enough place!

My husband had an out of state job interview that he has somewhat of an "in" for...six weeks ago now. Been waiting for one last phone interview with a very busy person. He was told he'd have an answer tomorrow but without that last important (and seemingly required) interview not happening yet, we've decided to keep from having early-onset heart attacks by assuming we're staying here.

Telling my boyfriend weeks ago there was the possibility of us moving away was stressful and sad, and I think changed our dynamic a bit. I think it will change in different ways again when we have 100% surety of what's happening either way.

So I'm doing "more and more stressed" Only talk to my bf about it to give updates, I don't know how he's thinking or feeling. Stress about if there is a new job, hours spent researching short sales, rentals, moving and having discussions about some hypothetical future. Too much time thinking about LDR's and if my bf and I should sensibly break up if we move., I always swore I'd never be in one but what a stupid thing to say, apparently when you love somebody you make impractical decisions sometimes :eek:! Then again I expected to live here for the next 20 years, this area is my <3.

Yep that's how I'm doing, stressed and worried, hopeful for my husband to get what he wants (it'd be a really beneficial job change and promotion), reluctant to deal with unforeseen and unwanted change - relieved if we stay and a wee bit excited if we go. It's warm there, and it's so so rainy here.

Phew, I feel better for getting that out, right now the people I'd talk about that with who aren't a romantic partner are out of the country, avoiding me (le sister) or having a DADT with me about my poly relationships.
 

opalescent

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I've gone to the local dungeon but going to my first BDSM private play party soon. Kinda nervous.

Not about the environment - I know the folks hosting and trust their ability to create a safe, sane party - but not sure I will react to things.
 

Magdlyn

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Staff member
I hope you like it, opal. I've been to one private party, very fun, lots of laughs and spontaneity and participation. And to a "public" (private club) party which was boring and depressing. You never know!

At the public one, most of the people (middle aged, fat, unattractive) stood or sat around and talked about vanilla topics while about 3 or 4 attractive, younger, porn star looking couples played. It just felt like they were putting on a show for the others. Blech! None of them looked really into what they were doing...

Now, I am older, not thin, but I was not about to get semi naked and get publically beaten or sexed in that environment! The Gentleman and I played in a semi private room, but I wasn't into it. At all. We went home early and I felt bad he wasted $20 times 2 for the cover charge.
 

nycindie

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Job interview on Monday. It's a commission-only inside sales job, but it's the only bite I've had in months. I can make my own hours and work as much or as little as I want. I'll still look for other positions, too. It seems everything is part-time. NYC is in such bad shape. There are so many people walking around during the daytime, and definitely less people hurrying to the subway stations during the morning rush hour. Everyone I see at S'bux or the library, to hook up their laptops to the free wi-fi, are surfing career sites and filling out job applications. I was talking to the guy behind the counter at 7-11 last night - he used to be a commodities trader. Now he works six nights a week for 10-hr shifts, doing the overnight, for minimum wage.

I really want this sales job. Fingers crossed!
 

BrigidsDaughter

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Doing pretty good. Spent yesterday afternoon with Wendigo; finished one of my new corsets; helped him start construction on a shield before picking Runic Wolf up from work. They hung out and played video games while I sewed in the workshop until my days projects were done. Tonight Runic Wolf and I are relaxing; just had a pizza.
 

LovingRadiance

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Life is amazing minus the drama. The guys tell me I should SHUT THE F*** UP before I jinx it. ;)

I'm busting ass in school (straight A's three semesters running now) and loving my family life without the drama and histrionics.
 
I really want this sales job. Fingers crossed!

Yes, wishing you luck!

I'm doing decently, found out yesterday we won't be randomly moving a couple of states away so I can relax. Feeling bad for my husband since everybody at work has been asking him for weeks about his job interview. Mildly sad because apparently sunny weather is coming late to the PNW.
 

NovemberRain

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I'm a little bouncy. (bouncier than I should be, it's bedtime) FBF won free tix to Peter Gabriel. Several months from now. And invited me. So cute. Makes me feel like he's thinking we'll be around for awhile.
 

JaneQSmythe

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Vacation

MrS, Dude, and I are leaving tomorrow for our first Vee vacation together. MrS and I are so used to traveling together - in the past I have found traveling with others (once just me and a friend, and once MrS and I with another couple) to require some shifts in perspectives/assumptions (MrS reports the same when he has traveled with friends without me). I'm curious as to how similar Dude's "travel style" is to ours...he's a pretty flexible guy though (as are we) so I have no qualms that we will do fine.
 

Castalia

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I've made a new friend on OK and we've been chatting quite a bit. He's new to the whole poly idea but very open minded. Not sure it will go anywhere but if nothing else I educated someone about different types of relationships and I'm enjoying spending time with him. Kinda hoping to meet in person at some point soon.:D
On other positive news, Gamerboy and I have come out of another pretty rough patch and are doing awesome. :D
 

nouryia

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Drained..

I've been having a lot of issues with my teenage daughter the past few days. Her disposition goes from sullen and depressed to full out screaming drama and threats over the smallest perceived slight; it's been a roller coaster. Also, Hubby has been struggling with not being able to find a boyfriend that sticks. He has had a couple of friends with benefits but nothing serious...and he longs to have a loving relationship with someone, just like I have with my boyfriend. And when Hubby is envious, hubby gets cross...and a bit jealous. Sigh..

We're also seeing some small schedule changes due to the b/f's wife's work hours changing. Nothing outwardly major, but it will likely lessen the amount of one on one time we are spending together. As much as I'd like to see more of him, I'm a bit unsure when to schedule that time now.

Really looking forward to the weekend already...no kids and the hubby's working both days. Maybe I can finally de-stress :p
 

RunicWolf

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Feeling down and frustrated while on vacation.

I have a friend I've had a bit of a crush on. I'd love to date her, but she lives about a half days drive from me (14 hours) and right now she dosent want to date, and I'm not really looking for something serious right now. We are a very good match and I do care about her. However even though she wants to do more then we have done (kiss and cuddle), she won't because she's afraid she'll explode my marriage. No matter what either of us tells her she's convinced it'll break us up, so thus I get to live in frustration over her for the week. I know it's kinda greedy, but I'm allowed to be greedy on occasion.

Outside of that, things are going well. Kicking ass and taking names.
 

Castalia

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My new friend is planning to come up to my area, he lives about an hour and a half away, for a couple of days next week. :D I feel all gushy and nervous. Trying to keep those feelings in check, hopefully I'm doing alright.
I'm also trying to keep Gamerboy in the loop and make sure he's ok with anything that might happen. While I've been chatting with people here and there, I've become more comfortable with any type of relationship Gamerboy might have or want. Which is awesome. If only he would actually talk to some on OK. :rolleyes:
 

Peek

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I'm doing OK. Loving this site a lot and learning more is always a definite plus in my book.

So, how am I doing in particular today? I'm actually trying not to overthink about someone I met about a month ago, who actually surprisingly (or not surprisingly) revealed his interest in polyamory. Not the reason why I am here, but it was something that sparked my interest in him further. I haven't openly told him exactly how far I've researched this topic by myself but there was a sense of comfort knowing we may actually be somewhat compatible (despite the age gap).

That said, it's early days and I enjoy every moment with him. Sometimes, it's as if someone punched me in the gutt -- but in a good way. Letting out all the stale air and breathing in freshness. I apologize if I sound like a Downy commercial.

The butterflies in my stomach are not complaining. Hope you're all doing well, too!

Cheers! xo
 

nycindie

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My stress is alleviated somewhat. I have been offered a part-time job. It will be a really low wage -- ridiculously low, in fact. But it's the only bite all my job-hunting has given me, so I'm taking it and will start next week. And I will keep looking for other work as well.

I have more things on my plate to get caught up financially, and keep my apartment. And if I can find a roommate, that will help immensely, and I can get back to nurturing my business instead of struggling to survive. It's been a really bad, bad situation over the last year, so I finally feel like I'm seeing some light at the end of the fucking tunnel.

So, to summarize how I'm doing: Slightly better than before, and trying to stay positive.
 

JaneQSmythe

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Just got back from our first vacation together. Some rough patches between me and Dude but nothing irreconcilable - we learned a few things we have to work on.

On the other hand - twice during the week we met up with old friends of ours/mine that knew about Dude but had never met him. They asked a lot of the right questions and things went very well! I think that seeing how all three of us are when we are together really helped.

Planning our next vacation for September (camping this time - which I think will actually be easier). And the last of my friends that still has to meet Dude is planning on visiting in October.

I think the roller coaster ride will continue as we encounter new hurdles but we are working on it and moving forward. I love these boys.

JaneQ
 
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