Dating another trans female is not an option. Not attracted to trans women. Only cis women. Besides I don't want someone with a penis, which is definitely a part of being lesbian. Lesbian do not find it attractive. And I am terrified of men, a penis will only make me think of a person as male.Hello LauryAnne,
I guess getting the surgery first before dating would simplify things, you could keep looking for lesbians who will date you pre-op, and eventually you will probably find them, but it might take a long time. It might help if you yourself would be willing to date a pre-op trans lesbian. Maybe. I am really not an expert on these things, but these are some of my initial thoughts. Good luck and hang in there.
I have a lot to work on actually. Part of why my social skills are poor is social anxiety and I am terrified of men due to childhood trauma. I am going into a in-house treatment center next month. It is an 8 week program which I really hope works. I have about 10 to 12 months before vaginoplasty. I am pretty excited about too. Though I am more excited about facial feminization surgery..... I really do believe that the reassignment surgeries will help with my self esteem issues and give more confidence in social settings like dating. I understand perfectly why a lesbian would not be attracted to me at the moment. Right now my only option is to date someone who is pansexual and I am not really interested in that.If you think you should wait? Go ahead and wait. And in the meanwhile? Could improve the social skills you mentioned. Maybe do some poly reading on triads. Maybe some on good communication skills. So when the time comes to date, you have some of that done already.