It really sounds like you've come to a good place.
Ok - we are starting to call ourselves poly with a lot of enthusiasm and conviction now! After going to the poly conference I have to just say, I LOVE poly culture. I love the openness to everything - openness to multiple connections, less judginess toward casual sex, toward BDSM, toward different views, different styles. I love the awesome levels of respect for people and independence. I love the caring and careful understanding of consent. I love the respect for women and gender and orientation diversity. I love the people with awesome communication skills and the open acknowledgement about insecurities and the caring and affection for people they have just met. I'm convinced that the poly culture is awesome and welcoming and I want to be a part of it. I want to be part of this tribe of bonobos!!!!!
My wife and I are starting to go to poly meetups in our area and we are feeling a lot more confident and excited about it all. We are also now acutely aware of the judginess from others about all forms of non-monogamy. But c'est la vie. We are doing it - screw everyone else! (and I mean that in the nice positive affectionate way).