Where to meet the right guy

littlefly34

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My partner and I are looking for a man to have a relationship with long term but we cant seem to find the right site or place to meet single guys what are the best places to meet the perfect guy I have been on several Dating sites. it seems that im getting several visits on but no hits whats the best site to join or the best place to meet single guys interested in a Triad couple :confused:
 

SchrodingersCat

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I always want to say that dating sites aren't the ideal place to meet people, but then again I met Auto through OkCupid, so *shrug*
 

scarletzinnia

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Why does he have to be single? If you want someone who is experienced in poly relating, and trust me, you do if you are going to attempt a triad (they are not easy!), they are likely to already have a partner, or two, or three.
 

Atlantis

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I just ordered one from Amazon. I will let you know how he works out. They have 30 day return policy in case he doesn't do dishes and provide amazing sex, and earn a 6 figure income and ....
 

littlefly34

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were looking for someone single because we only want to have one extra person in our relationship someone we can love and who will love the both of us back to many people make it complicated I would rather try one person who is involved in only us but i feel like this type of man doesn't exist
 

YouAreHere

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I just ordered one from Amazon. I will let you know how he works out. They have 30 day return policy in case he doesn't do dishes and provide amazing sex, and earn a 6 figure income and ....

Pro tip: If you get the Amazon Prime membership, your PerfectGuy[tm] will arrive in two days for free! ;)


Seriously, though, OP - the perfect guy would be different for each person (and who knows, may be different for you and your partner). Just meet people and see who clicks, maybe? My partner's got a profile on OKC, and he's finding that it's all over the map. Some hits, lots of misses, but it could be worth a shot.
 

nycindie

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were looking for someone single because we only want to have one extra person in our relationship someone we can love and who will love the both of us back to many people make it complicated I would rather try one person who is involved in only us but i feel like this type of man doesn't exist

But what if you meet someone with whom you both really hit it off and, because he's poly, he is in another relationship? And let's say that his schedule and lifestyle would mesh well with yours - you would pass him up just for not being single? There would still only be three people in your triad, even if he has others who are not involved with you. If he can manage it and you'd feel satisfied, why the heck not?
 

littlefly34

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I don't want to be selfish but I looking towards the future someone who could eventually move in with us someone who we could have all to ourselves I dont know im very new to this and I guess I haven't Figured it all out yet I guess I need to be more open and this is why I have joined this site
 

PolyinPractice

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What you are looking for is a "pegasus," the male equivalent of a "unicorn." It's nearly impossible to find a bi girl who happens to love both halves of a couple; and I would say even harder to find a bi guy.

It's a little selfish, but, more practically, more unrealistic. Have YOU ever found yourself equally in love with two people who were together?

It very, very rarely happens.
 

Inyourendo

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I met my boyfriend through a friend and he coincidently works for the same agency I do.

I met my husband though myspace.

He met his gf through meetme.

She met her bf through me (we are classmates)

I personally prefer single people too. Im not interested in dating someone who lives with another partner.
 

littlefly34

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I know one day My partner and I will Find that one person that makes us happy somone we can spend the rest of our lives with
 

JaneQSmythe

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Sometimes they just show up when you aren't even looking...or don't know that you're looking...

I met MrS at a friend's party - wasn't even looking for a boyfriend, just wanted to get in his pants...that was 22 years ago:p.

VV was MrS's friend from college.

MsJ married MrS's/my friend from HS.

I met Dude in his grandmother's basement because I was interested in adopting his snake. MrS had met him in a casino...

Dude met Lotus on OKC...
 

GreenAcres

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were looking for someone single because we only want to have one extra person in our relationship someone we can love and who will love the both of us back to many people make it complicated I would rather try one person who is involved in only us but i feel like this type of man doesn't exist

The language your using concerns me, because it seems indicative that you have all kinds of "couple privilege" going on, as well as a lot of preconceived notions about what will be expected of your "third," and that is likely to end really badly, primarily for your Pegasus.

I've been the third to a couple who thinks like this, as though I was an accessory to their existing relationship. I've known several others who have, as well. It's unfair and generally dehumanizing to the newcomer, not to mention pretty unsuccessful all around.

I've never met someone who wants to be an "extra person" in someone's existing relationship for more than casual sex. Would you? so if you're looking for someone to love, I'd definitely suggest you do a site search here on Triads and "unicorns," and do some heavy reading, then a lot of talking, before trying to meet another person to love together.

This is one of my favorites, which I think illustrates some of what I am saying better than I can articulate it: http://www.morethantwo.com/polymistakes.html
 

Ryan3232

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Late to the party

My partner and I are looking for a man to have a relationship with long term but we cant seem to find the right site or place to meet single guys what are the best places to meet the perfect guy I have been on several Dating sites. it seems that im getting several visits on but no hits whats the best site to join or the best place to meet single guys interested in a Triad couple :confused:

Hey, to your inquiry, I would recommend checking out the following site:
www.beyondtwo.com


I am relatively new to poly, but I have been researching & comparing poly sites; at moment, I am most impressed with this one. While it does not have the same number of people as okc, the people seem to be more genuine & interested in long term, serious relationships. Plus, you have a bit more freedom from the set-up to search for potential partners.

Best of Luck!

Ryan
 
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