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    Book recommendation

    Great book, and thank you for reminding me of it. :heads over to office library to pull the copy I read years ago: :D
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    Drive by update: Still here, and still good. Mal and Djinn are working on their divorce. It's a long time coming so while there is lots of grief about it there is also a certain peace. Mal and I are doing good. Plans for him, I and the kids to do the quintessential summer road trip this...
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    I'm glad he can tolerate it. I couldn't, but also my snoring isn't very bad. Hoping to get Mal to try it one of these years... his snoring doesn't bother me, but if it is true apnea then the CPAP is the gold standard for treatment.
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    Kevin's Hetero MFM Poly-Fi V

    Can you schedule time for that? We do, an hour a week where it's just chatter. Nothing life shattering to share? That's ok, we'll talk about politics, or the weather, or the latest TV show we watched, or a weird post on FB.... but for an hour each week the most important thing we do is talk to...
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    Well, I'm back from my visit. Djinn and Mal had a bit of a blow up about where she's keeping her things (everywhere) vs where she is living (the basement suite) while I was there that ended in the main floor master bed room (i.e. Used to be 'theirs') is now only Mal's and all Djinns 'stuff' from...
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    Well, I can't remember the last time I checked in, but we are past our 2 year anniversary (which Mal and I spent on a trip to Whistler, BC). Djinn is living in the family home's basement suite that she was sharing with Aladdin until he moved out to go to Uni. She is now casually dating, but...
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    Mono in a poly/mono relationship and in serious agony

    Someone here told me it takes about 3 years to really settle down into it. First year "forming", second year "storming", third year "norming". And (as I'm in the third year now) I have to say that has held very true for us.
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    Mono in a poly/mono relationship and in serious agony

    Hear, hear! This book is an AMAZING resource, as is the website of the same name if you can't get the book.
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    Unicorns & Unicorn Hunters - Merged Threads, General Discussion

    Thanks Kevin, I used your list in another online discussion today. It was very helpful - which is to say that it sure got the conversation going! I got attacked by the poly-noob as expected, but also by a 20 year triad member who likes being called a unicorn and found the list offensive. Ugh...
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    Does anyone ever wish they weren't polyamorous?

    I think some people are hardwired to it (Mal for one) and some are not (me for one). Do I wish we were mono? No, I really don't. When he and Djinn were going though so much upheaval it was really hard on me. I didn't like being the only one he had. Now I know he has other partners (more...
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    Dating a Monogamous Partner

    Probably. I'm really happy being a mono, LDR, non-primary to my poly partner :)
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    Canada anyone?

    You might want to revisit your definitions. Polyandry means married (as in the legal institution) to more than one man. This is illegal in Canada. But polyamourous relationships with more than one man are legal.
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    Dealing with Asymmetry?

    This.
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    Happy birthday! 39 is a great age, and isn't some anniversary of a younger age. My 40's have been amazing (so far) and wouldn't choose to go backwards for anything! Yay to living our authentic ages!
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    Help with feeling like the third wheel

    I get wanting a more connected relationship with your metamour. I'd love if Djinn and I were able to discuss our partner together and conspire (in the best way) to bring healthy balance to all our relationships. I really am not attracted to women at all, but want a "kitchen table" kind of...
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