Recent content by abejita

Thanks, Evie. This seems like something he would be willing to try with me. I really like this.

GalaGirl - Thanks for your response. We have had screaming matches before. I was quick to become angry because he immediately became defensive, and he immediately became defensive because I was quick to become angry. It's a cycle that we have been working on. I went to therapy for a while...

I originally posted this in the wrong area - my apologies. I would like to hear people's thoughts about dealing with partners in the past who have lied and how that affects your relationships now. There is a tl;dr at the bottom because this got longer than I thought it would be. I will be the...

I have been with J for about three years. I currently live with J and his wife S (he has been with for nearly 12 years). J has one other partner (three partners total) that he has been with for about 4 years. I have another partner D that I have been with for a little over two years. We all get...

how do you deal with discrepancies concerning sex? my partner loves me - this i know. i don't doubt this. i know people find me sexually attractive. but i really am having a hard time dealing with this no sex for a month or two at a time thing. things were not always this way - naturally. i've...

i understand what you mean completely. this is why i can't be in relationships that use a hierarchy system. putting a relationship or feelings in a box is not something healthy for me. it makes me feel controlled and resentful. i hope things get better for you - be sure to communicate this. and...

a few months ago, my boyfriend and i (we are in a poly relationship) began to hook up with two friends of ours that are in a relationship (mono as of right now). one of them decided that that sort of thing wasn't for her, so of course, we cut it off (where's the fun and happiness if one person...