Thanks, all
I've been reading up on some of other posts and resources here and I'm realizing now how my situation isn't really poly at all its just wrong. I have a business trip coming up - I could extend it to two weeks - that would give me some time away from the situation to figure this out...
My situation is that my wife decided she was poly but she has a much lower sex drive (and energy in general) than I do, so now that she's got another partner, I basically get less of everything and it wasn't like I was getting a whole lot of attention before. I think its been around three months...