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I honestly don't know that it could. I think given how close we all are, it would be too difficult for the others to still be involved with me if I was maintaining both relationships. Also, I think that I would have a hard time keeping it all separate. That being said, they seemed to have hashed...

Caught in a shitty spot today and I think I'm just looking for a place to stress since my friends would never understand. I'm getting along great with both my partners at the moment but they are both going through some stuff together. They are having their own relationship issues and I'm not...

Totally agree! When I see how my long term bf would instantly get aroused just kissing a new partner I would feel a little put off in the beginning. After I reminded myself that we were the same way almost 7 years ago I was able to relax. It's only natural to get extra excited about a new...

Sorry you're having such a hard time WitchDragon :( I am in a triad myself and can understand some of the emotions you are feeling for sure. My long term bf and I both really care for our new gf and while it is beautiful I can understand that it can sometimes trigger fear or jealousy. I know...

That second link you posted was a great help to me. I have a bad habit of not validating my feelings and talking down to myself for having them. This opened up a whole lot for me. Allowing me to accept them and then find a healthy way to deal with them when I know they are not true. Thank you

Darn society filling our heads with all that stuff from the time we are babies! You are correct, Har does not live with us. The relationship, while progressing quickly and feeling amazing, is still too new to jump into having her move in here. There's always the chance that once the honeymoon...

thanks! And they really are lessening. I think it's just going to be a while before they stop sneaking up on me periodically lol. While Jay and I have never been monogamous (I had previously made the decision that I could not see myself only loving a man when I also have strong feelings for...

For those of you in triad relationships: I 100% understand that in a three person relationship there are actually 4 relationships that are all being fostered. I'm 100% on board with this and totally get it. I'm feeling just a little blah today I think because I can see the relationship between...

Absolutely it helps, it's really cool to hear other people's takes on things and allows me to look at issues from different angles. I've done a lot of thinking and am pretty sure that I have some deep rooted feelings of insecurity and un-worthiness that stems back from when I was a lot younger...

Thanks so much. I do feel like I experience these feeling less frequently but they just kinda creep up at the oddest of times. For example, last night while all in bed, they were snuggling to sleep and I got just a terrible emotional feeling. But just prior to that we all enjoyed some beautiful...

You know, you might be right. Maybe there's a piece of me that has only seen him display certain types of affection towards me and maybe it strikes a little jealousy in me now that I see someone else on the receiving end of it. If that's the case, I imagine those twinges of jealousy might...

They are both fantastic and we often talk about different aspects of how the relationship is developing and how we all feel. I have mentioned a few times that I had a little jealous moment but that when I broke it down, I am not needing anything to get over it, it just kinda happens but is...

I feel like I must have misrepresented what I said. I'm not feeling that I'm not getting what I need. I got a lovely good morning text as normal and feel very loved and cared for and don't feel I'm getting left out. I think that's why I was frustrated at my jealous moment. Because I'm happy...

Thanks That's actually all super helpful. An ya, I didn't read the note but just saw it. Silly that it evoked any negative reaction at all but for some reason it did, even though I want them to bond like that and think it's beautiful. I think the reason I hate myself for having those moments is...

Hi all! My bf and I have been in a non-monogamous relationship for almost 7 years now. We just recently met someone who is quickly becoming a big part of our lives. We have been dating as a triad for about a month now and spend a LOT of time together. I'm super happy with where things are...