Recent content by adventurecouple

Well, one more update. Everyone (mainly my wife) seems to think I am overreacting and being a little too stuffy, so I'm going to roll with this interest the three of us have for each other for a little while longer. However, I've made it clear that I will just view our time together as fun...

I concur.

Thanks for saying that. And I really appreciate the very even, very mature advice offered. It was immensely helpful to have realistic parameters thrown out to bracket our course, as well as some real world experience. The Unicorn Hunter article was really spot-on. I read it with a certain...

Maybe. But it's what she needs. I care more about her than sexytime with friends. :) I do wish we could relax the rules a bit. She is the jealous type... does NOT like other women getting too up close and personal with me. Sigh.

Hell, yes! I agree completely. I'm not at all a big drinker. Not only does it dull my perceptions but it inhibits, ah, my performance. :) My wife is not usually a big drinker either but she hadn't had much to eat all day, was nervous, and the three glasses of wine completely tanked her...

Thanks -- you stated that well, and I understand. I want a triad. I think my wife does too -- but nervously, and with jealousy issues, which basically makes it impossible. Neither of us wants to date on our own, i.e. date other people without the other around. I might be up for that, but it...

Thanks everyone. I'm pulling the plug on this experiment for now. It's just too much heartache for too little gain. I don't want my wife to feel jealous or hurt. It's not worth it to me. Especially not for what is obviously a very short-term thing. I respect anyone who manages to get all...

I read the threads here and everyone who has success with this (or stages of success, anyway) seems to be in a much more advanced state of emotional being than we are. I'm just beginning to see the massive challenges to be solved with a goal such as a polyamorous lifestyle. There's a pitfall...

Wheels almost came off last night. Although we started talking about a solo date, for some reason we all agreed to get together again last night. And this time, Ivette's attention was squarely on me. (Lord help me, she's an incredible looking woman.) Shelly was involved, not forgotten, but...

Okay, so we are Unicorn Hunters. Got it. I think. Okay, this is something I suppose is worth talking about. There seems to be a learning curve that most of you experienced folks see us new people on, with some degree of weariness and frustration. Perhaps you see a predetermined outcome...

The latest -- my wife and our new friend are going to have a solo date. :) I suggested it, actually. I think our friend will be more comfortable. She's completely new to all of this, including the female interest aspect, so I think this will help keep her from feeling overwhelmed. And I'm...

There's definitely more to all of this than meets the eye. I see now why all of you advocate caution and slow pace. There's a lot of difficult-to-navigate terrain here. I'm grateful that there are others willing to provide suggestions and assistance. Please keep it coming. Thank you.

Good points - thank you. Your first comment about having a relationship that might be 'different' struck a chord with me. It's true, I always sort of visualized this happy threesome of people that cared for each other equally, but that's an ideal which may simply be unlikely if not impossible...

Yes, you're right. It's envy, not jealousy. It's not quite correct to say there's no spark between me and her. There was touching, admiring of bodies, flirtatious talk, that kind of thing. And she made it a point to ask us both back out. So I'm overstating it a bit. But I really think...

Wow. Date night was last night. It was not what I expected. The good: she's amazing to look at, she's funny, and fun to be around. Also good: she wanted to have a normal 'first date'. Nothing crazy happened. At all. In this day and age, there's something to be said for that, when you...