Recent content by Aejay

I absolutely agree with you, and would never compromise on my values or boundaries. We are navigating a new style of relationship together that isn’t based on romance but on our mutual interests. Now we are also navigating to possibility of a D/s connection that aligns with both our values and...

Far out, I can really understand why it made such an impact on you, likewise with my ex GF, I will literally never forget her. However she brought some serious growing up into my life, and from that experience with her I have learned how to love myself so much better, and to address fully, the...

That was a good one. I have been working on my authentic voice and releasing attachments for a number of years now, and yes it’s true, I DO enjoy being weird and killing predictable conversations.

@MeeraReed, I am concerned about being discarded too, however I am choosing to work with my rejection issues, and simply accept that as a mono man, he will likely discard me as soon as a ‘proper’ love comes along. In the mean time I will enjoy the companionship while we have it. To be honest...

Oh this is fun! O 85% C 67% E 52% A 69% N 60% I am also autistic, so many of the questions in the questionnaire I struggle to know how to answer really accurately. I hold fo the same quiz three or four different ways and they would all be accurate for me, however this is the result for today...

I actually read out the advice that galagirl gave us, and that really helped him see that it wasn’t just me being difficult, and also reminded him to be more honest with himself about what he was really pushing for. We really do love each other, so I hope that love stays strong in the arena it’s...

I loved your reply! Thank you!!! I ended up finding a way to talk about the facts just as they are, and he was very graceful in accepting the reality of our incompatibility. He has agreed to keep the friendship connection we have, which doesn’t come with any fuckery or woe, and in fact in...

Hahaahahahahaaaa! So spot on, I’m sure he would love that scenario even more!

Yep, this is where I put my foot down after you kinda reminded me to! I absolutely said that there is no compromise for the security of my romantic relationships, and likewise for him. He got it, he agreed. So grateful for all your input, guidance and advice. Thank you so much for your...

Thank you for your considered insight! It turns out all of you are spot on. He admitted that he was hoping for me to prioritise him, and I told him that will never happen. We have managed to avoid any further hurt so far, and remain as the friends I was hoping to be. Time will tell if he can...

MeeraReed gosh, you’re spot on there! So last night I went to break the news to him that I am not compromising any part of my secure lovestyle, to meet him in some arbitrary middle ground that is insecure ground for me, and also for him. We had a really good talk, he did admit that he was...

Th Thank you for your response. I am noticing that it’s me that isn’t willing to compromise my lovestyle for something else, and that’s where it’s getting tricky for me. What is this other place, this ‘middle ground?’. He mentioned like an open relationship, but I don’t feel secure in open...

Hahah, yep. I’m kinda getting that feeling too, that he is conflating love with lust. I’m Demi sexual so am feeling love but not lust. Thank you for reminding me that poly is not being an asshole, it’s just different.

Galagirl Thank you so much. I talked with my partner and had came to the same conclusion. You are right, none of this is working and I’m not his therapist or his mother. I have to accept this disappointment and probably lose him. It sucks, but it’s better than a relationshit.

Thank you, I will try that. So far he said he isn’t interested in reading up on anything. Thank you for replying even though your exhausted. I appreciate it.