Recent content by AlexPortnoy

I suppose I failed to mention in previous posts that her most current BF is attached and lying to his partner, which is significant. I always tell her I love her unconditionally. I just wish she didn't frequently try and test those conditions.

New turn in this sage Now I am confused. My GF and I have had ongoing discussions since this erupted on Sunday and we've been getting along though things feel fragile and distant. Anyway, this morning she said "I think I'm going to end things with (the attached guy). It's just too much. Too...

The constant bumps were my own. I went from a 100 percent monogamous marriage to dating my current GF in an open relationship since day 1. It merely took some getting used to, like living in a foreign country that you love but may not carry the type of peanut butter you're used to. Agreed. I...

My mistake, he's not married. He lives with his longtime GF and their child. But…splitting hairs, am I right, folks?

I define myself as somewhat monogamous. I like being a primary, I've enjoyed meeting new lovers in the past though not lately. Getting used to my GF seeing new lovers can be a hurdle at times, no doubt. Which I suppose is why I couldn't define myself as 100 percent only poly. I certainly prefer...

Thanks for your input. We spoke at length last night and can't decide whether to take a break from each other or from seeing others. I prefer hunkering down to see whether we're worth it anymore. She suggested taking a break from each other, but acknowledged it's difficult to do while living...

My live-in GF and I have run into some problems recently - broken rules, total NRE submersion and more broken rules. I don't date a whole lot. Maybe once or twice a month and rarely does it lead to sex. And even more rarely NRE on my part. I like my dates as friends, but don't always feel...

Interesting I'm not sure where I stand when my partner dates someone who is married (and cheating). My partner's opinion is "love is messy" which I agree with - we never can tell who we will fall for. She said she's unwilling to meet a married (and cheating) person for just sex, but is willing...

I feel like I've been on a roller coaster already. I love her, I really, really do. But so much drama, it seems. I got in from work last night just as she was heading out for the night. We'd texted all day often about domestic duties, boring stuff. But there was also a lot of "I miss yous" and...

Great advice. I feel you've been to many of the same places as me. The scorekeeping. Please, I really need some help with this. I was in a sexless monogamous marriage for a long time. It ate at me for years and probably still does. I associate(d) sex with love, and that if I wasn't having sex...

I agree. Any tips? Because I don't like keeping score either. But I don't like being taken for granted and that's how I always feel when I'm not getting laid. I've said all this to her, so at least that's out of the way.

Thanks for the advice and I wish it was that simple for me. I was in a sexless, monogamous relationship for 13 years where we'd have sex maybe a handful of times. The whole thing caused me to place an unreal value on sex and lead to a lot of resentment and self-doubt. This lingers on. And my...

Honestly, loneliness is what first drives me into the misery. But once there, I start thinking "Hey, I do a lot around here, and in our relationship, just so she can go out with someone else on weekend nights?" The idea of giving her a curfew sounds like it could relieve me some stress, but I...

Thanks for your insight, KC43. She returned home shortly after I posted this, and again, said she was sorry. She told me she loves me more when she can come home to me, etc. And I know she would never leave me for this new guy, for many reasons. But still. I want to be cool with overnights...

My primary girlfriend of two years and I moved in together in March. Since then, she's met two partners for dates that led to sex. Since April 20, she's had three overnights with one of the guys. The first overnight troubled me because she didn't text or anything, and I had to send a panicky...