Recent content by AlixDomme

Last spring before we were poly my husband slept with a woman he met online. It broke my heart and shattered me. I was a complete wreck and was very suicidal, mostly bc there was not communication beforehand and he lied about it afterward for a week or so. I became obsessed with finding out who...

Thanks all for the great responses. I journaled yesterday about my feelings about poly... and they all stem from fear. So I am now taking the advice here and focusing on what I do want: Happiness Being able to give love without any expectations Freedom to do what I want/need to do for myself...

Thanks to the last three posters. I really appreciate all you had to say. I know my self worth is an issue. I rely on others for my happiness now. Five yrs ago (pre-marriage) I was more independent and grounded. Now I am much more needy. I don't know how to get back to where I was. But I want to.

Maybe it's due to being in BDSM, but most of the poly people I know are swingers, and/or sleep with random people they don't even know. I see it happen a lot, and it's really a turn-off to me. I know poly can be done in many ways, so maybe I should just find new poly friends.

Yes. I can see that. Maybe my reason for wanting to date is for more people to make me feel good about myself, appreciated and needed. That is sick and twisted maybe, but it's my reality. What are normal reasons for wanting more than one person? Why isn't one person good enough?

I am having such a hard time with polyamory. I had a perfectly happy monogamous marriage for 4 years. Then we had deep discussions and decided to try polyamory. (I've never liked feeling caged in). But I am insanely jealous and worry I will lose him to someone better, or with a better body, and...

Opal: you are awesome! Thank you soooo much. I appreciate the non-judgmental tone of your message. My library has that book so I will pick it up tomorrow. Sounds right on! As for me, I'm an introvert actually but I do like one person with me...meaning I hate parties and gathering and social...

Thanks for your response. I found it very helpful. To answer questions, no she doesnt have (or want) additional relationships. She hasnt dated since her divorce 4-5 yrs ago and two new partners is enough for her now. Yes my husband is my primary and I am his, and gf is secondary. Gf knows this...

I am new (in the last 6 months) to poly after being monogamous in marriage for 4 yrs. My husband and I started dating a woman and are now in a triad. Husband and I are both on the needy side, while our gf enjoys her alone time and privacy. In a way this is great--she will never want to move in...

Hi All, brand new to the group and wanted to introduce myself. I am a biological woman married to a transguy and we have been monogamous for 5 yrs up til the last few months. We are involved in bdsm and we slowly wandered over to poly but have now found ourselves in a triad with one of my...