Recent content by Alleycat

Another aspect of couples privilege is the objective limiting of relationship aspects with "secondary" partners, be it "I can't do X Y Z with you", or "I can only do X Y Z with you" or "We can do X Y and A but not Z, and we certainly can't call it X Y A or Z." In some cases this isn't limited...

Hi folks, been away from the site for a long time due to life stuff and questions of personal identity (great stories........well, great in as much as lessons for others). Swinging back around to touch base as I figure stuff out.

The same? No. But very closely related, in fact more overlap between the two than plenty of people admit.

Polyamory: It's ok to to have non-standard relationship ethics, and behave outside of standard sexual and interpersonal conventions, Except when your ethics and/or behaviours are different than those of the morality police in the echo chamber. Then your just a terrible awful cheating hussy...

Having been a few times someone's "secret", and seeing where it can lead; One both or all relationships involved around the secret can be negatively impacted if things come to light in a sudden and negative way. (3rd party accidental discovery by a mutual acquaintance for example) which tends to...

Speaking as one who in the past has occasionally worn the PUA hat; (Not proud of if, but not ashamed of it either) - it IS a numbers game, a PUA is keeping "score" However in doing so, it's impossible to develop quality interpersonal relationships and connections as attempting to do so would be...

175 lbs. Hit it as of today finally. Now to start the bulking cycle. :)

Little update; Been meaning to post more but life and such things get in the way of internet, "Freyja" has made headway and has brought the non-monogamy talk to the table with the BF, which went better than expected, which is to say they've had the normal initial discussions and come to some...

So, recently I've come into a situation that is unusual to me, by that I mean one where I'm being asked to bend my usual code of ethics, and I find myself fairly agreeable to the request. A long term friend of mine, (lets call her Freyja) and I have had a mutual latent attraction which we never...

You might have to go private (not company provided) and pay out of pocket for coverage, wills and whatnot are less of a hassle.

Sent From a 23/F 60% match whos profile I glanced at: "Nobody likes retrosexuals anymore." Wha? Huh? I think at this point I'm just keeping the profile active out of morbid curiosity.

Sounds intersting but also like a huge risk of dropping oneself on the head. If you have access to a gym with a proper stock of weights and racks (bench, and squat rack ..... you'd never belive how many "gyms" do not have an actual squat rack). Try wendlers 5/3/1 workout. It's simple, it's...

Squats: 'cause nothing else hurts so good. Truthfully if I go too long without hitting the weights, my body starts to give me little cramps that feel like withdrawal cravings, couple of quick sets with the free weights sets me right again. Also as an interesting side note, I don't seem to get...

Personally I'm about to drop the OKC account. From what I've been told and shown, the site is so flooded with douchebags and creepers that its really not worth my time to try and swim in a pool that polluted. I didn't think it was that bad until a friend of mine showed me her daily inbox...

sadly not this year, I have a few acquaintances that will be attending however that have promised me I'm going to miss a specular time.