Recent content by Alluvion

Welcome! I think it’s awesome that you’ve created an intentional family.

Did you ever get an answer to your question, StudentofLife? I’m betting you’re no longer around, but I’m sending good thoughts to you if you do ever read this. I’m bumping this thread because I was just about to start a new thread about navigating polyamory when you have a disability but...

Welcome, Pa_Ulla! Have you tried setting up accounts on dating sites like OkCupid or Her? Her is an app for queer women only. OkCupid is much more mainstream, so I don’t think I have to explain that one. :) Either of them might be helpful! Be as descriptive of what you have to offer, what...

“The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival” by Kathy Labriola was a good read. I honestly found it just as helpful for platonic relationships as for the romantic ones it was written for.

I second the recommendation for lots of individual and couples therapy. Polyamory (and other forms of ethical nonmonogamy) change your existing relationship in all sorts of ways that can sometimes be difficult to predict in advance. Change isn’t always a bad thing! But it sure can be scary...

I also like the idea of having a closed section to keep certain things out of the reach of Google searches.

Along with all of the good points that have already been brought up, it’s been my experience that many (but certainly not all!) married poly men do not have much bandwidth for the sorts of stuff that makes me eager to date someone new. This is even more common if they have young children/ a...

Quietly listening…

I’m sorry this keeps happening to you. If it’s okay to ask, where are you meeting these potential partners? One thing you could try is briefly describing what polyamory means to you either in your profile or very early on after you meet if you’re meeting these people in person. There are...

The definition of alluvion is “the action of the sea or a river in forming new land by deposition.” For example, a river carrying silt to a riverbank and eventually adding far more land there than it originally held. I love the mental image of slowly creating something substantial over time...

I agree with Kevin. And I’m so sorry for your loss.

I’m sorry that happened to you.

Welcome! This is an excellent site to learn more about polyamory. There are so many knowledgeable and friendly folks here. I hope to see you around the forums soon. :)

Welcome! I’m demisexual myself. Dating can definitely be trickier when you’re on the asexual spectrum, but there are wonderful people out there who are cool with it. If you do a search for asexual and related terms, you can find some threads on the topic. :)

Welcome!