Recent content by Aloneforadvice

Thanks so much for your care, GG! The change has come from counselling (which started and is going well now) and hard, ongoing communication. It’s in no way perfect, but I think we’re more aligned for the time being (I’ll take it). Also, moving past our prior, long-term triad has led to a lot...

Hi again, everyone! I have some great news to share, after months of conflict, my partner and I have resolved some differences and started dating another third! It’s still very new, but it’s been terrific so far. We are getting together with them again this weekend and we’re both very excited...

Hey GG, I did not agree to monogamy, but am honouring what my partner needs from me. I don’t like it though. The resentment feels terrible, and I’ve been very angry. This is not me. I booked us counselling, even paid for it, and it has not helped. I’m going to spare myself from more...

I’ll keep this in mind, FeralGeek. The grieving process after this significant life change is unlike any I’ve known before. Perhaps it’s due to the closed triad split, leaving me with my primary mono after three years (which I’ve never been through before), or maybe I’m just getting old (nah;)...

Thank you for your kindness and compassion, Magdyln. I’m working through the ‘noise’ and aiming for somewhere better. Your insight is not taken for granted. New connections not only seem healthy, but necessary. It’s encouraging to know you found yourself through grief. Perhaps I’ll do the same.

I thought I’d provide an update on this, as sadly, things have continued to break down in my now monogamous relationship. In fact, there is so much resentment between us that it’s become a toxic relationship. I’ve continued advocating for polyamory, and my partner is now completely against it. I...

Hi Gala, Are you a therapist? Ha! Again, you’ve shared many good points. I had never heard of DARVO, and believe this to be a good description of the irresponsibility/manipulation I’ve witnessed. Basically, I’ve found space for myself in my current partnership to ‘embrace some solitude’ and...

A beautiful and emotional story. Thank you for sharing.

Thanks Gala, My partner didn’t call me a “sex fiend” with those words. The exact situation is a bit more frustrating, as they have encouraged me to seek out potential third partners, to be friends or otherwise, and when I’ve thought there was a potential match, the idea of actually being with...

Hi Galagirl, Thanks so much for asking all these questions. It is helpful to read them and think about them. After a couple of more days of fighting about this, I have decided that I need to change course. My commitment to my primary partner is very strong, but as you’ve pointed out, we’re not...

This is also very helpful. Thanks so much.

Yes, my partner felt our triad needed to be monogamous. Our third was not able to do that. However, the issues were much more profound. Our third was actually a type of financial hustler, which we ended up seeing in action with others and has made this all kind of traumatic. I understood why...

This is so kind, Kevin. Thank you for being so welcoming. I’ve been having a hard time with this.

Thank you so much. I really appreciate this.