Recent content by ALottaLove

Hiya, I am the girlfriend of Bob, who was split up with Jane when we met. jane and Bob wanted to try again, they have a lot of history. Bob and I tried to let go in order for them to work it out, and when we missed each other one hellofalot, we proposed polyamory to Jane. I am comfortable with...

Bob and I talked about long-term ideas quite early on as we are both the kind of people who feel comfortable openly discussing those subject areas. You are right, however, in regards to raising these subjects with Jane. I think that my main intention here is to ascertain her feelings about the...

ManTheMyth, I have the strongest urge to give you big hug and ask you: what do you want?

I just wrote an amazingly epic response and then, as I went to post it, the blooming thing had logged me out and it disappeared! So frustrating. oh well! the gist of it was: I consent, and nothing has been broken in terms of agreement. Everyone is working hard and being supportive and honest...

I didn't say that, did I? I said I might like to end up in bed with them both, and that it's an idea we've been toying with. By which I mean I am open to us exploring the dynamic as a trio, and that it is of course dependent on how I feel when I meet Jane. Edit: additional thought... Also, it...

Thank you PinkPig, really good advice :) I struggle to look after myself emotionally sometimes, it's something I've been getting help with for a while. The HALT thing is good! I'm going to memorise it. So now, how would you deal with this bit? I feel a bit better, but am aware that I got...

Almost an hour later, and I have been thinking some more. I don't want to give this up, I feel there is potential for growth for us all here. There is a great deal of honesty, hard work and love happening within this little trio. I want to meet Jane, and I might like to end up in bed with both...

Hey all, I am one of three people entering a poly dynamic for the first time, and it's come about by accident in a way. Can these scenarios work? Some backstory will help... Bob and Jane were together for five years. They had a long relationship breakdown. Jane dumped Bob about 3 months ago...