Recent content by AlwaysGrowing

This is just... icky. I mean, a totally valid practice and type of ethical nonmonogamy, but decidedly NOT the norm in polyamory from my experiences.

Oooh I love Filipino pasta sauce! It's made from banana ketchup so definitely not what most Americans are used to, but so good when you're expecting/planning for it. The sauce with some cut up hot dogs over spaghetti and topped with shredded cheese is a rare treat dinner 😂

That seems like a very honest, very real thing. He's identifying himself as ENM, not polyamorous. He has commitments that limit what he's able to offer new people, realized you want something he's not able to offer, and made sure you knew. Sounds like he can find time for some fun sex and...

I've tried a lovense toy. It did not work for us. It had to be reconnected to the app every time we used it, and then then it would randomly disconnect which made it unreliable. We knew it was a long shot since I'm not a huge vibrating toy person anyway, but it was a fun experiment. This was a...

Just really think this through is my only advice. If you bring it up again and Hibiscus is really uncomfortable or upset... family gatherings may well be impacted. If you date Evergreen, and it doesn't work out down the road... your ex is at every family gathering. Ouch. If you do work...

Separate/overlapping vs straight shared blankets help, so everyone can stick a leg out for temperature regulation too. Honestly though... I agree with others that you should each have a bed big enough for two in your rooms, in case sleeping all together ends up not being super-feasible at...

3 people CAN fit in a king, but there are a lot of variables. Whoever moves the least and can handle the most heat should be in the middle. I can't sleep in the middle, otherwise I wake up in a puddle of sweat and my entire body hurts from feeling like I can't move without disturbing two other...

Generally, these policies don't work. It's hard enough to find someone you're compatible with that is also open to polyamory. I have only ever seen gender=specific agreements lead to resentment.

We saw a condor when we were at the Grand Canyon about a month ago! It was so cool to watch

Has a DNA test been done? She's lied about conception dates/pregnancy... what's to stop her from lying about paternity? In Tree's position, I would want to make sure the child is actually mine before moving forward with trying to get Rose and child back in state.

There are two main reasons I personally always asked when someone is looking for when i was online dating: 1 - A lot of people make the profile then never update their answers. 2 - Different people interpret things in different ways. If you say you're looking for a long term relationship...

It varies. Some are solidly unicorn-hunting couples. Some are seemingly egalitarian. Some have OPPs or are only open to additional partners of the same gender. Some of the coupled people are actually only open for the women to date because the man has no interest (or realized his prospects...

I do think much of the polyamorous experience depends on location. In my area (a small city in Oregon, nowhere near as large as Portland, but not a rural town either), a not insignificant portion of the polyamorous folks I encounter are racist, bigoted, orange man supporters. There is a solid...

FWIW, I've always thought that the letters were just a description of what comes next. I describe my relationship as a MFM vee. It's not prescriptively closed, so I don't say closed. When one of my partners IS dating, I'm still in an MFM vee. 🤷‍♀️ I might change that description to an N or W...

If the argument is that equal rights for women = feminism, then yes. In monogamy, men and women have the same rights-- the right to exclusively be romantic/sexual with one other person. I don't think polyamory is feminist either. Even well done polyamory. I think it's a relationship structure...