Recent content by Alycat

Just to say: Have now located a sexologist and counsellor locally. Wonderful person.. no judgement, just sound advice from a wealth of experience (both professional and personal). Thanks for the responses. To the boo-ers .. good luck.. attitudes such as the ones you display and lack of...

When I say all or nothing.. I don't mean.. choose me or her, I mean.. if we are to be polyamorous, then it would be congruent with that concept that I be able to source the additional things I need from outside our 'relationship' as long as done in a respectful and fully discussed way.

Thank you Magdlyn for your balanced and open response. Some of the mroe recent ones I have found to be extremely judgemental .. and of little value to my situation (a kind of 'bagging out' if you will). I am constantly reviewing my situation in my head and although, yes, there are days where...

Good advice BB. I do find I get overwhelmed and writing it down, as you say.. takes out some of the emotive content and allows you to say things much more clearly. I sincerely would like things to work out - however that looks, either all together or me, bowing out gracefully. I have no...

Thanks BB. Looked up that term 'couple privilege' and yes, I think you are right. I feel there are definite areas of exclusion set up by the wife ... she is very controlled in her emotions, and cool, calm and collected in most things. I often wonder if the 'exclusion' I feel over certain...

Thank you Thank you... some really good bits of advice to come out of this. What do I want .. someone asked. I wish I could answer this concretely. If I could have a wish come true.. one moment, it would include his wife and all three of us co-habitating happily. Inclusion is one thing that...

I love him GG .. and that's the problem. My love for him has grown and now, its painful for me to see them together. As I said, in the first instance.. it was me filling that 'void' of their 'non loving relationship' but now, that void no longer seems to exist. Do I make him happy and stay...

Hi there I am new to this site so, please forgive me if this kind of question has been posted before. I am for the first time ever, involved in a polyamorous situation. It came about after meeting a man who I at first had an affair with, but who at the time, told me he would never leave his...