Recent content by Amac

Anyone have any luck with poly dating apps? I'm on OKCupid and while there are definitely non-monogamous people on there, it seems few and far between. Does anyone know of anything designed strictly for poly people?

Wait wait....does he swing alone? In that case, the only difference here is your romantic interaction with Galaxy whereas he has just physical interaction with other people. And that definitely needs to be addressed. To take things another step: what do you and Galaxy want out of the...

Clearly defined rules and boundaries are not a bad thing. Have a talk with him (without Galaxy present) to find out what those are. Also talk with Galaxy about what she wants out of the relationship. And obviously, you express your desires as well. When everything is out in the open, I think...

I agree with powerpuff. Give her at LEAST a month if not longer without you mentioning it. In the meantime, check out those links. Some good stuff there.

If the move is something in the neighborhood of 3 months from now, you need to start talking. 3 years from now - enjoy the ride and address it maybe about a year out from when it needs to happen. Somewhere in between? Maybe 6 months from the eventual move. When I had problems I hated hearing...

No worries, you are not the problem. It sounds like you know what you want. Communication is key here. Your partners need to be made aware of what you want in your life. Maybe they'll agree, maybe they won't. But the most important thing here is to let them know what you're hoping for.

Well, I'm happy to say we are here for you. I don't know what area of the country (or WHAT country, for that matter) you are in, but it seems like around my area there is a very strong swinger community, but other poly people are few and far between. We have been to many swinging events and I...

My girlfriend identifies as Solo Poly. In a nutshell, that means that she is her own primary. But, she is very involved with my family, having come on vacations with us, spending some serious time, we also get alone time, just the two of us. She also dates other people. So I echo the...

Ouch. Good questions there. Let me just say that you are not alone in these feelings. Our first poly relationship, a triad, ended when our third, M, decided that she wanted a husband. And our relationship was a lot like what you are describing. Everybody loved everybody and it was all...

As much as it sucks, if it has to end for you to be happy, then that is what is has to be. You also have another partner - Is s/he providing you with your wants and needs? Focus on the good, weed out the bad. But above all, discuss everything. Communication is key.

An important thing to managing a true triad is realizing that there are actually FOUR relationships going on there: You and Lady You and Guy Guy and Lady The three of you in a nice happy triangle. The group chat and the meet are great ideas. Your other two ideas depend on your individual...

Talk it out and get everybody's expectations settled. My primary is my wife, so we show affection in public. We're not making out or anything, but we hold hands and kiss now and then. My secondary and I don't show affection in front of our kids, but do sometimes when out in public without...

Only harder if one of you gets jealous over it. That's when it's good to talk about how much info you care to share with each other. For example, I like to know what my wife is up to and vice versa. I prefer less details with my girlfriend - she tells me what she wants, but I don't press for...

Sorry to hear it's not working out the way you want. But, in these things, everybody has to be happy. Rules are important - wants and needs have to be addressed. Being 800 miles apart will make it harder for them to physically see each other, but it's 2017 and LDR's are easier than ever. But...

Being a hinge myself, I can say it's a tricky part of the shape to be. My recommendation is that if you want a relationship with S, do as Kevin suggested and keep your relations with A to a minimum. Right now, A is his problem - lying and hiding are never good. If you love him and care for...