Recent content by amobrasil

Hello PinkRose, I am sorry to hear you are feeling heartbroken. I hope your heart will heal soon. From my own life, I have come to see that jealousy comes from the fear of abandonment, that the person will forever lose the object of their affection. In a relationship where two people love and...

Hello, I found this site for the Cinti area, perhaps you could look them up? Good luck! :) http://ohiovalleypoly.150m.com/discuss-groups.htm

Hi Jody, welcome to the forum. Divorce is always difficult, and I am sorry to hear about your situation. But life is too short to be lived miserably, and it's great that you are taking charge of your life and going after what you really want. Hang in there!

Haha, "poly-cuddly" - love it. I'm going to have to tell my gf that one! :)

Thanks for the pointer, I'll try it out. Yeah, I like the roommate idea. And it would not be a lie, because the person really would be a roommate living with us.

I do wish that we had not come out. It felt rushed and premature, and raised all kinds of hell. Oh well, too late now... At least we won't have to do it again.

You're so right. I myself was shocked and dismayed when my gf first approached me with the idea of poly. I was so conditioned to believe that love is jealous by nature, that I took great offense at her suggestion. But the idea simmered within me, and nearly a year later, I finally realized her...

Agreed. It's too bad we had to find out the hard way. But live and learn, right? Thanks for the advice!

Hi Ariakas, You are right. That is exactly what happened. After the first disaster, we asked the subsequent girls to not come out, but they did it anyway. I can only guess, but I'm thinking it's partly due to the novelty of poly, and partly due to the desire to seek approval from their loved...

SourGirl, Ah, you're right. We should be more compassionate toward these women. I apologize if my words came across as harsh. In the heat of the moment, it is difficult to see that not everyone is alike, and we all have our unique strengths and weaknesses. We need to do better. We will try to...

Hi TL4everu2, I hear you. We actually specifically told Mia not to tell her mother, but she did it anyway, and the consequences were dire and things got really ugly. Apparently she had a great relationship with her mother until that point, so she thought that her mother would be happy for her...

Hi GroundedSpirit, No, I didn't take your post the wrong way. I understand and appreciate what you are saying. The expression "counting the cost" has been thrown around a lot between me and my gf during these experiences. We've paid dearly, as have some of the girls, for wanting to be...

Redpepper, Ready2Fly, preciselove, thank you for your insight and advice. Redpepper, after these painful experiences, we decided that, if someone becomes interested in us, we will always discuss with her the issues regarding her coming out. That decision actually spared us another bad...

My girlfriend and I knew nothing about poly until we both fell in love with a female friend last July. Since then, we have been pursuing a poly-fi triad. We have been fortunate enough to date numerous 20-something unicorns. Unfortunately, our track record has been less than stellar, as indicated...

Hmm, good point... I had not thought about that. The problems we experienced were with the girls' families... I will post a detailed thread in the general forum because I want to compare notes. Thanks for the welcome! ^_^