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    Poly emails

    However, there are a limited number of ways to say "I love you"... in so many words.
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    Please- need advice

    I think you need to sort out the reasons why you are feeling insecure and jealous and afraid your relationship with your boyfriend is threatened if he has another girlfriend. Until you do that work on yourself, things are unlikely to get better. Things don't just settle on their own, people need...
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    Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

    I got a super creepy message yesterday. Someone from 1600 km away and just 37% match. He mentioned severed limbs and stealing from his girlfriend in the first paragraph. But he showed that he had read my profile, looked for common interests, and wrote a message based on that. So he got a...
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    Is bad hygiene a dealbreaker?

    Never happened to me, but it would be a deal breaker. As nycindie says, I don't want to be someone's mother and tell them to wash themselves.
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    Experiences with FB or FWB only

    My experience has been that regardless of how the relationship starts, it will evolve on its own. CG and I started as FWB and seem to have remained at that stage, although I briefly started having more feelings for him which then fizzled out. His wife would like for us to be more closely...
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    Poly-Dating: How to meet like-minded people

    Both on OKC. I met my ex when sunbathing in the park.
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    Distance and Travel time

    How about fixing your car? Sorry, it sounds obvious, but I don't really see the issue. If that is not possible right now, what's wrong with train/bus, or simply wait until you can get your car fixed? If the connection is there, it will likely still be there in a few weeks.
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    Polyamory and Ethnicity

    I grew up and live in Europe, and while it's most definitely not a place free of prejudices, it also doesn't have the historical baggage that the US has when it comes to race. So when it comes to my "programming", I am probably not that influenced by the social rules that apply to the US, and at...
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    Maybe writing it down will clarify it for me too

    Sometimes one needs just to hear the words that are going on in one's head, coming from outside. That sentence says it all. I am not happy with him, so I need to stop seeing him. The temporary happiness is overwhelmed by the longer term unhappiness. Yesterday we had another chat and he said...
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    An update on my mono/poly situation and some questions.

    I'm glad you found a solution that works for you both, although it might not be what you'd have wished for. And I hope you'll manage to keep it on the friendship level, since your relationship was LD and the difference might not seem so obvious at first, with the risk of falling back into the...
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    This so new and exciting, but need advice on jealousy/neediness/expectations

    It might also be that you have a great two weeks and then decide never to meet again. It doesn't need to be a catastrophe just because you never met. On the jealousy, why are you feeling jealous? Are you afraid of being replaced, either as a lover or as a friend?
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    I'm so happy I could burst!

    Happy for you! :-)
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    Maybe writing it down will clarify it for me too

    I would like to ask you for your perspective on my situation. It's a fairly common situation from what I've read on these pages, still, I can't sort it out myself as I only see my point of view. Background: boyfriend (let's call him Andi) and I got together 2 years ago, had a perfect first year...
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    Your most recent OKC messages. post em here!

    For sure match alone is not enough. I've found though that any match below 60% usually indicates we disagree on most of my (or their) "mandatory answers". Sure, we could have a chat... but why, if we're going to disagree at such basic levels? I usually don't even look at the profiles of matches...
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    Devastated

    Woah, regardless of previous arrangements or lack thereof, she doesn't sound like a nice person from the way she approached this. Do you really want to be in a relationship with someone who so blatantly ignores your feelings and does things behind your back? I'd make it clear that this is...
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