Recent content by annakas

Hi Solus! I want to pre-face my reply with that I am a mono and kind of a glass half empty type of person. So I might see things a bit more pessimistic view than they actually are. I have been lurking in this forum for the last four years as a silent reader, since I find this forum to be very...

Since trying to be more assertive hasn't been working for you and you would feel guilty in spending the time to have a long sex session on a work day evening, have you thought of perhaps changing yours and hers regular date time/over night on to a day where both of you have a free day the next...

Perhaps you could use nicknames/pseudonyms for A, B and C. Because in your current post it is very hard, almost impossible to fallow your situation so it is hard for people to give you advice.

Here is a link to a page where you can buy it. You will have easier time in searching for it because there is more info on the book in the page IBSN number and so on. And better summaries than I can tell. http://www.bookdepository.com/When-Sorry-Isnt-Enough-Gary-Chapman/9780802407047...

Perhaps the reason why you can't move on is the fact that you just haven't got the apology in the way you need to have it. Gary Chapman wrote a book "5 love languages" that a lot of people here have recommended, about how people feel, give and recieve love in different ways. He also wrote a...

Hey Ace as a fellow Grey A/demisexual I am sorry for the confusion and pain you are feeling, but suppressing your feelings will not work and will make things only worse for yourself and your friendship with your friend. My advice for you would be is to confess your feelings for you friend and...

Perhaps the reason he was so hostile about your boyfriends surprise visit, is because: A) He felt the sanctity of his home was invaded. Everyones homes should be their safe places, but with the boyfriend showing up your husband doesn't feel emotionally safe in your home anymore, since someone...

Perhaps the gestures and presents your boyfriend does to his other girlfriend just aren't in her love language, and while they are nice they aren't what she needs or craves to feel loved and appreaciated. So she complains about how she doesn't feel loved or appreaciated by her boyfriend. The...

Wow. Both your ex-gf and husband were dicks about the situation-- her for doing it in such an impersonal and cowardly way. But at least she got it out and is not stringing you along anymore and giving you mixed messages. It is always hard to break up with someone you actually still like, but...

One of the issues others have not mentioned is the fact tha you are interested iin her relative/family member. Even if she would agree to a non-monogamous relationship with you this does not mean she would be okay and fine with you having sex with with her relatives/family members/closest...

1) For clarity in my examples He is the married cheater/married ethical polyamorist and she is the person who is willing/unwilling to date them. On top of my head I can come up with several reasonings why someone is willing to date a married person who is cheating instead of a polyamorous...

Using the definition of bisexual like that though sadly does send a very transfobic message (also a bit mysognistic (sp?) and perhaps even misandryc (sp?)), even if it is unintentional on the part of the person who uses the bisexual definition like that. It might not be intentional but the...